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My fiance and I are 22 and will be getting married next year. We are both graduating college with degrees that will ensure us jobs (his is already lined up and mine is very promising.)
People are always asking when we are going to start a family and I feel like to be responsible we should wait a few year and save some money and get settled first. However, I really wouldn't mind if I got pregnant on the honeymoon and he has said that while waiting would be good he would be very excited if it happened earlier than planned. (We are planning on using NFP.)
I'm really excited to be married and to spend time just being a wife but is it bad that I want to start the mother role right away too?
In your opinion, what is the best time to get married?
I hear two conflicting messages in your post. First you feel like to be responsible you should wait a few years, but then you ask is it bad that you want to start the mother rolle right away? Which way are you and your future husband really feeling? And like someone said already, there is no "best" time. Arguements can be made in either direction that a couple should wait and enjoy the first year or so of marriage just being a wife and a husband, and some say why put it off when you don't really know what the future holds.
The important part is for you and your husband to be on the same page, and if you choose to wait to fully educate yourselves in NFP, as you've already mentioned you planned on doing.
Me, I got married later in life, age 31, had my daughter a year later and have experienced unexplained secondary infertility ever since. I wouldn't do anything differently, I certainly would not have waited because my daughter truly is the best gift my husband and I have ever given each other. But we knew we didn't want to wait. I waited long enough to be a wife, I didn't want to wait any longer than I had to to be a mother too.