[quote=uofl19]Thanks to all guys. Great responses and this does help. Fidel, it is actually MY OWN MOTHER who is very bitter towards my wife in wanting to stay home. She feels if you are not making 100K a year you might as well be on welfare. We have no debt but a house payment so we are not living above our means. I think it is because she did work and that is what she wanted to do. She actually also said too that “you need to use birth control” No Catholic abides by that rule anymore!! Again another, aspect where she is going against the Church because she thinks having kids costs too much money!!
She is my mom and she wants the best for me, I know but when do you say Mom, I CAN DO THIS!! w/ot her getting in a tussy about it. She has made my wife, like I said earlier, not want to be around my parents.
- I am a Catholic stay at home mom.
- My husband and I do not use contraception.
One way you might approach this is to point out to your mother that you want the very best for her grandchild, and the very best is not a lot of material things but a care-giver who will love your baby like her own child. That care-giver, of course, is your wife. Nobody will love your baby like his/her parents.
You might also point out that staying at home can be more financially feasible than she thinks. When I was considering returning to work after the birth of my first child, my husband and I added up all the expenses it would take for me to work (gas for the car, higher car insurance, clothes for work, daycare, putting the baby on a bottle instead of breastfeeding, disposable diapers instead of cloth, etc) and discovered I would have to work 4 days out of 5 just to pay for it all. Who wants to work 5 days for one day’s pay?
Then I discovered I could actually help our finances even more. I found a part-time job selling on eBay, so I can work at home. I also cook from scratch, saving us a lot of money on food. I do all the housework, so we don’t need to hire additional help. In other words, my husband provides most of the income, and I stem the outgo.
We are in terrific financial shape, and we have two kids who are well-behaved honor students.
If I were you, I’d put my foot down. Your wife and child come first, not pleasing your mother.