What is your dream girl like?

This is for other guys like me.

If you could create in your mind your dream girl, what would she look and be like?

Age?

Hair color?

Eye color?

Height?

Weight?

Nationality?

Intelligence?

Personality?

Just a few questions…feel free to ask and answer additional ones :yup:

I know the dream girl in my mind is 22 years old (my age), has long dark brown hair, is beautiful and possesses compassionate, dark eyes, and owns a fair and a lily face. She is about 90-120 lbs., is short (below 5’6"), is graceful yet not pompous, has a refined European deportment, is very intelligent but still somewhat conservative on moral issues. And last, she is diffident, though fun-going and loving.

Hm, interesting thread I seem to have found. Can’t answer, but I’d love to read some of these replies.

What about religion’s faith and moral value?

Magdalan–As a middle-aged married woman and mother, I think you are focusing in an unhealthy way on the physical attributes of an ideal young woman. I doubt you would be flattered if you met a young woman to whom you were attracted if she had a similar list of ideal attributes that you did not match. Furthermore, such idle dreaming is an unproductive waste of your emotional and mental energies. Instead, focus on becoming the best person you can be and develop healthy hobbies and interests that will attract a wholesome, devout mate.

PS, when I was your age, I pretty well matched your “ideal” but I would not have been interested in a guy who was primarily looking for those qualities.

[quote=Madaglan]Thi:yup:

is very intelligent but still somewhat conservative on moral issues. .
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Hmm:hmmm: Are you saying that those that are intelligent are generally not conservative on moral issues?

Aww you lucked out, too bad I was born 10 years before you. You pretty much described me at 22.:smiley:

I’m my husband’s dream girl too!:wink:

Originally Quoted by Pro Life Teen:

What about religion’s faith and moral value?

you mean religous faith and moral values?

Sure! Why not!

I just think it’s good to think about what you would want a girl to look like, too. I mean, let’s face it, guys like girls who, if not hot, are at least somewhat attractive.

I mean, even in religious art we almost always see the female saints portrayed as attractive.
We never (or rarely) see a young female saint portrayed as ugly in our religious artwork. I wish my dream girl were destined to be a saint. Then I could marry her and she could teach me to grow in piety! We could both become saints, and I could become the first St. Ryan! :love:

If you could create in your mind your dream girl, what would she look and be like?

Age? 47

Hair color? Dark Brown

Eye color? Black

Height? 5’ 1"

Weight? She’ll never tell

Nationality? Filipina

Intelligence? Extraordinary, especially in the arena of common sense

Personality? Bubbly, cute, silly and gorgeous

I married her a long time ago. One of the only really smart things I ever did. I am the luckiest guy on Earth.

I remember when my younger brother (then in his early 20s) was raving about his then girlfriend and how beautiful she was. I was rather astounded because no one else thought she was more than pretty ordinary in the looks department. But my mother always said “Love is blind”. Just like mothers adore their babies no matter how funny looking, when you really love someone you think they are beautiful (whether or not someone else thinks so). So don’t get all caught up in what you think your ideal girl should look like, she might surprise you. But by then you will not even remember what you were looking for, because you will know you found it.

[quote=La Chiara]Magdalan–As a middle-aged married woman and mother, I think you are focusing in an unhealthy way on the physical attributes of an ideal young woman. I doubt you would be flattered if you met a young woman to whom you were attracted if she had a similar list of ideal attributes that you did not match. Furthermore, such idle dreaming is an unproductive waste of your emotional and mental energies. Instead, focus on becoming the best person you can be and develop healthy hobbies and interests that will attract a wholesome, devout mate.

PS, when I was your age, I pretty well matched your “ideal” but I would not have been interested in a guy who was primarily looking for those qualities.
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Hey La Chiara we must look alike.:smiley:

Reminds me of something that happened while my husband and I were dating (at the the ripe old age of 17). I asked what first attracted him to me, he said my great looks, he asked me and I said *your personality, *we both had just insulted the other. My husband thought I was saying he was unattractive and I thought he was saying who I was inside wasn’t important. That’s not what either of us meant.

By the way Madaglan the physical attributes will fade, it’s ok to have fun with a little fantasy, but when your really looking for a good women to spend your life with you should have moral values at the top of your list, add trustworthiness, honesty, compassionate, devoted - those kinds of things are what make a marriage a good one.

Originally Quoted by La Chiara

So don’t get all caught up in what you think your ideal girl should look like, she might surprise you.

You’re right: I probably should not think about how hot she’ll look, since she very well may be hotter than I imagined. That would be a suprise! :bigyikes:

Thanks for the advice!

[quote=rayne89]Hey La Chiara we must look alike.:smiley:

Reminds me of something that happened while my husband and I were dating (at the the ripe old age of 17). I asked what first attracted him to me, he said my great looks, he asked me and I said *your personality, *we both had just insulted the other. My husband thought I was saying he was unattractive and I thought he was saying who I was inside wasn’t important. That’s not what either of us meant.

By the way Madaglan the physical attributes will fade, it’s ok to have fun with a little fantasy, but when your really looking for a good women to spend your life with you should have moral values at the top of your list, add trustworthiness, honesty, compassionate, devoted - those kinds of things are what make a marriage a good one.
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Rayne–Yep, we must look alike. (Must be the “beautiful” part!) And we think alike!

[quote=Madaglan]This is for other guys like me.

If you could create in your mind your dream girl, what would she look and be like?
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My views are flexable and there are attractive girls of all looks but this is the look I would say.

Age? 22

Hair color? Dark Brown

Eye color? Brown

Height? 5,2 - 5,7

Weight? 110 - 125

Nationality? European, particularly Spanish or Italian or something like that.

Intelligence? very inteligent with common sense.

Personality? fun, but serious at times. Conservative and Catholic. Humble and respectful.

Although love is blind, the first thing that you see is the way someone looks on the outside. I am sure that the importance of looks fades with time but it is what attracts people.

Ryan,

Wow, every time I read one of your posts I think, “Man, that’s just like what I’m going through too!” I’m a 22-year-old guy in college, and let me just say, I’ve been thinking about this very subject myself for ages now! But unlike me, you had the guts to start a thread on it!

I feel for you, man. Sometimes you’ll spend an entire afternoon envisioning your perfect dream girl, not just her looks, but her personality too I bet. Yes, it can be fun to dream about such ideal beauty–and ladies, I don’t think he’s taken his dreams too far, as some of you have suggested. If he started lusting after his fantasies, then he’d be taking it too far. If he did nothing else all day besides dreaming, then he’d be taking it too far.

Back to you, Ryan–I bet you feel a calling to the married life. You’ve got to use these dreams for good. Every time you think of that perfect woman, let the thought remind you how much you must love your future wife. Let your dreams be a vessel of hope to help you through your depressing times. Let them encourage you to work to become the best man you can be for your future wife.

Here’s an anecdote from a fellow dreamer–I used to try to think up the perfect woman too. Not long ago, I met a woman who I thought matched my ideal specifications–she was gorgeous (and I mean really gorgeous), Catholic, and seemed to be somewhat interested in me. Score! Right? Nope. When I asked her out, she gave one of those non-answers and then proceeded to avoid me at all costs. In the meantime, I meet another, less-beautiful woman who also shows some interest in me.

And you know what? Over the last few months of being in class with the second woman, I have found her to be far more beautiful than the first. Her intelligence, personality, and generosity all contribute to her overall beauty. (I’m planning on asking her out tomorrow; prayers, please? http://forum.catholic.com/images/smilies/biggrin.gif )

So what’s my point here? The point is, inner beauty and outer beauty go hand in hand. Do not look for just an outwardly-beautiful girl; you might end up with a very ugly person. Pray that you meet the woman who God has in mind for you. She will surpass all of your current expectations.

Originally Quoted by jimmy:

Although love is blind, the first thing that you see is the way someone looks on the outside. I am sure that the importance of looks fades with time but it is what attracts people.

Right on bro!

I mean, take a look at sites like CatholicMatch.com. With each profile is the first thing you notice a description of the person’s personality? No, of course not! Although these are also mentioned later on in the profile. It’s interesting to note the order by which CatholicMatch (and nearly all other Catholic dating sites) list categories in each profile listing:

1) Photo (very heavy emphasis on physical/exterior)
2) Age (emphasis on physical/exterior)
3) Gender (emphasis on physical/exterior)
4) Location
5) About me (slight empahsis on personality)
6) Seeking (slight emphasis on personality)
7) My Appearance (heavy emphasis on physical/exterior)
8) My Background [including marital status, children, ethnic background, education, etc.] (emphasis on physical/exterior)
9) My Faith (heavy emphasis on personality)
10) My Favorites (very heavy emphasis on personality)

The first thing a guy reading each profile notices is what the girl looks like and how old she is. Next, a short sentence or two mentioning who the person in and how she is looking for some guy who is “loving and caring” (which every guy who reads it says to himself, “yep, that’s me!”). Then the guy reading the profile notices what the girl looks like (in case the pictures are not clear enough). Background information is important, too. Last and least is mentioned the girl’s faith and her favorite movies, music, etc.

In any case, while the profiles cover both the physical characteristics of and the personality of the individuals therein described, the profiles, through the order by which each category appears, place an emphasis on the girl’s physical characteristics rather than on her personality. :slight_smile:

Originally Quoted by lontas:

Wow, every time I read one of your posts I think, “Man, that’s just like what I’m going through too!” I’m a 22-year-old guy in college, and let me just say, I’ve been thinking about this very subject myself for ages now! But unlike me, you had the guts to start a thread on it!

Wait a second. You’re asking out a girl tomorrow and you don’t have the guts to post what might be a controversial thread on Catholic Answers?! Crikeys! I mean, I hope everything works out with you tomorrow when you ask the girl out; but please: if there’s something on your mind that you think is intriguing enough to post, then post it!!! It’s not like Karl’s going to send the Inquisition after you for bringing up a topic which impotent geriatrics–now enduring stoic, bland lives, in the expectation that their latter years of mortification will atone for their more youthful years spent in dissipation–consider morally iniquitious, though sensationally alluring. :yup:

on our first date at a japanese restaurant, my wife ordered fu-gu - a sushi dish from the deadly blowfish that must be cut by a trained sushi chef, since if any of the venom remains, paralysis and death could follow.The lethal dose of tetradotoxin (the toxin in FUGU) for a full-grown man would fit on a pinhead. Tetrodotoxin is 1200 times deadlier than cyanide, and one blowfish contains enough poison to kill 30 people. It is said the blowfish inspired Deuteronomy 14:9-10 which states "These ye shall eat of all that are in the waters: all that have fins and scales shall ye eat: And whatsoever hath not fins and scales ye may not eat; it is unclean unto you"
Eating fugu is an experience, and not something to be rushed through. Typical of Japanese, there is a sort of ritual built around fugu consumption, not unlike a buddhist tea ceremony. First, the blowfish to be eaten is shown to the diners. The sushi chef opens the fish and removes all of its organs, specifically the liver which contains the deadly poison. The fins are then removed and fried, then served in hot sake, known as Fugu Hire-zake. The blowfish skin is painstakingly removed, and de-spiked with pliers, and the skin is then placed in a salad known as Yubiki, flavored with a vinegar/soy dressing called Ponzu. After the skin is removed, the head is cut off and the chef fillets the fish for use in sashimi and then served to the guests.

when she ordered the fu-gu. i KNEW i’d marry her someday. her spirit of adventure and exploration matter 1000% more than her appearance. (which is sheer beauty FYI)

go with the girl who eats fugu over the princess anyday.

Originally Quoted by thechrismyster:

and one blowfish contains enough poison to kill 30 people. It is said the blowfish inspired Deuteronomy 14:9-10 which states “These ye shall eat of all that are in the waters: all that have fins and scales shall ye eat: And whatsoever hath not fins and scales ye may not eat; it is unclean unto you”

Yeah, when you’re in ancient Mesopotamia, stay away from those Hittite sushi bars.

First, the blowfish to be eaten is shown to the diners. The sushi chef opens the fish and removes all of its organs, specifically the liver which contains the deadly poison.

The real adventure is when, before consuming the meal, you see neither the blowfish nor the chef cutting out its liver. It takes real guts to eat the blowfish then. :thumbsup:

go with the girl who eats fugu over the princess anyday.

I do have a thing for Japanese girls. Quite close to my dream girl description. :love:

[quote=Madaglan]Wait a second. You’re asking out a girl tomorrow and you don’t have the guts to post what might be a controversial thread on Catholic Answers?!
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That’s right, dude! If the girl says no, that’s rejection from one girl. Posting this thread, on the other hand, has opened you up to public disapproval from all kinds of women from all over the world. Hence, the guts.

Hey, if you’ve got such guts, why don’t you quit yer dreamin’ and ask out some girls for real? http://forum.catholic.com/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life,
Never make a pretty woman your wife.
So from my personal point of view:
Get an ugly girl to marry you!

[quote=chicago]If you want to be happy for the rest of your life,
Never make a pretty woman your wife.
So from my personal point of view:
Get an ugly girl to marry you!
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Thats a good song

Say man.
Hey baby.
Saw your wife the other day.
Yeah?
Yeah, she’s ugly.
Yeah, she’s ugly but she sure can cook.
Yeah? Okay.

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