Wow, every time I read one of your posts I think, “Man, that’s just like what I’m going through too!” I’m a 22-year-old guy in college, and let me just say, I’ve been thinking about this very subject myself for ages now! But unlike me, you had the guts to start a thread on it!
I feel for you, man. Sometimes you’ll spend an entire afternoon envisioning your perfect dream girl, not just her looks, but her personality too I bet. Yes, it can be fun to dream about such ideal beauty–and ladies, I don’t think he’s taken his dreams too far, as some of you have suggested. If he started lusting after his fantasies, then he’d be taking it too far. If he did nothing else all day besides dreaming, then he’d be taking it too far.
Back to you, Ryan–I bet you feel a calling to the married life. You’ve got to use these dreams for good. Every time you think of that perfect woman, let the thought remind you how much you must love your future wife. Let your dreams be a vessel of hope to help you through your depressing times. Let them encourage you to work to become the best man you can be for your future wife.
Here’s an anecdote from a fellow dreamer–I used to try to think up the perfect woman too. Not long ago, I met a woman who I thought matched my ideal specifications–she was gorgeous (and I mean really gorgeous), Catholic, and seemed to be somewhat interested in me. Score! Right? Nope. When I asked her out, she gave one of those non-answers and then proceeded to avoid me at all costs. In the meantime, I meet another, less-beautiful woman who also shows some interest in me.
And you know what? Over the last few months of being in class with the second woman, I have found her to be far more beautiful than the first. Her intelligence, personality, and generosity all contribute to her overall beauty. (I’m planning on asking her out tomorrow; prayers, please? http://forum.catholic.com/images/smilies/biggrin.gif )
So what’s my point here? The point is, inner beauty and outer beauty go hand in hand. Do not look for just an outwardly-beautiful girl; you might end up with a very ugly person. Pray that you meet the woman who God has in mind for you. She will surpass all of your current expectations.