[quote=uofl19]I was wondering what everyone thought to do or if you experience what I do.
When my non-denominational in-laws pray over a meal or pray for someone or something in general. Is it wrong for me to do a “Sign of the Cross” before and after and pray to myself while they pray?
I have never done that out of respect to them especially my mother and father in law. I just bow my head but never say Amen.
I have thought about this for a long time and always feel uncomfortable around them. They never have really chastised me being Catholic but I’m sure they aren’t thrilled that I am.
So back to the original question, how would you folks handle this situation. Do any of you on this board experience something like this already. Thanks and God Bless!! Can’t wait to hear the responses.
I am frequently in the situation you describe with friends, though, not relatives. Here’s what I think:
*]Is it wrong for me to do a “Sign of the Cross” before and after and pray to myself while they pray?
[/list]If the sign of the cross is a contentious issue, it is probably best to avoid out of respect. “…clothe yourselves with humility in your dealings with one another, for God opposes the proud but bestowes favor on the humble.” 1Pet 5:5 It is not a dogmatic issue and I don’t believe Catholics are bound to making the sign of the cross, so there is not an element of compromise. You(and I) probably make more of this issue in our minds than anything else. As an aside, I usually hold my hands together near my heart with my head bowed when I pray. My evangeleical friends seem to prefer to hold hands or put their hands behind their backs while in a prayer circle. No one has said anything to me about my posture though it is clearly different. The sign of the cross may be no different…
2. ** I just bow my head but never say Amen. **
Im not sure what you’re afraid of here - Amen is universal. Don’t be afraid to pray with them - do you think their prayers are dishonoring God somehow?
3. **They never have really chastised me being **
** Catholic **but I’m sure they aren’t thrilled that I am. ****
“A tree is known by its fruit” The more Christlike you are the better your witness to the Catholic faith - far more than all else.
If you want them to think more of your Catholic faith, think more about your behavior. Period. “Preach the gospel always - use words only if necessary” think about it…
Oh, and by the way, here’s a tip of something you DEFINITELY must avoid: partaking of a “symbolic Lord’s Supper”. I had this happen to me while praying with a new group of friends. One of them broke out his bible and started reading one of the Last Supper verses and also broke out some bread and a can of grape juice which got passed around. I knew it was not our Lord, and I confessed this much to Him. My emotions told me it was better not to rock the boat and my concern was with my friend whom we were praying for. I ate and drank knowing full well that it was not Communion. I should not have, and thankfully I decided to discuss it with my priest in confession. “A great sacrilege” were the words he used, I believe. :nope: I won’t make that mistake again.