I am non-catholic Asian woman who was previously dating with a Catholic boy from an European country.
I told him before we started dating that I had have several sexual experience in the past and asked him if it would be a problem. He answered "No."
He was a virgin at that time, he told me that I was the one he’s been waiting for and I would be the last girlfriend of him. so, we had a sex. When it turned out, my past became the biggest problem of us. He always told me “I can overcome it. Please just trust me and wait.”
6 months later, despite the promise that he’d stay in my country, he found much nicer job in UK and left here. I was trying to follow him but it was too difficult for me to find a job without Visa. He always said “I could give you the last solution(which means marriage) to get a visa, but do your best to get it by yourself.”
After one month, he broke me up saying "If there wasn’t your past experience, I would have proposed you already, but I found it almost impossible."
I asked him if he didn’t like me anymore or wanted to find a new girl with no experience, he answered “No” for both questions. I said I didn’t mind if we can’t marry, we could just continue non-sexual relationship until either of us want to marry someone else.
He said “I don’t want interrupt your future happy life. If we’re still single at our 40s-50s, we can date again.” and broke up.
What makes me confused is that he still sends many messages which reminds me of our happy moment. also he asked me if I already had a new boyfriend. I said no and asked him if he wanted me to find a new partner, he answered he didn’t want. He said he wants me to be a Catholic sister! I am so confused.
I still love him. If it’s a goof idea, I’m willing to be baptized. but I don’t want to bother him anymore.
If you could give me any advice, I would be really appreciate.
Thank you so much for your time.