What specifically does the Church teach about homosexuality?


Peace & warm regards.
All I can do is relate my experience in experiencing peace from God;
for diligently praying to avoid all impure thoughts, even though I am only naturally attracted to a woman.
I must tell you during many time in my life I struggled with lustful thoughts.
Usually thinking about past experiences during times of struggle in my life.
I mostly connected love with the procreative act; which caused much rationalization.
In the Name of Jesus Christ diligently for clarity in obedience.

Please take into account how I had to relate my struggle, before Grace of God gave
me an inner peace that could be lost.

This past year, I prayed to be cheerfully celibate chaste. To only think pure thoughts
of my wife; we, in a journey under the direction of Sr. Dot started with a Justice of The Peace marriage. Because of hardships like I have a order of protection from one of her children; and much strain in needing peacekeepers in our home; ultimately her children;
(we have no children together) but some of her children gradually filled the grandchildren as they got older with resentment of me. It was intolerable, so for the
sake of the children, we are separated. We are friends, talk from time to time; and she
knows that I need both of us to enter into serious Christian counseling before I would consider being married in The Church. We are celibate friends, she is good with this.
And knows I require our being counseled before a Church wedding.

Recently, after for months being Graced by God to welcome pure thoughts of her;
avoid physical thoughts of her of an unchaste nature; God gifted me with one of the fruits of The Holy Spirit called self-control. I have very little need to pray out of welcoming thoughts contrary to self-control. I’m cheerfully celibate in thought and action.

God rewarded me by flooding into my mind almost my whole life experience, giving me
a sense of God always leading me; and an inner peace and joy of having come so far.
I was resting on my bed at dusk in an ambiance of grey when this happened.
three points especially:

  1. all of a sudden, I remember awaking at 7 years old in a difficult childhood at night,
    not Churched, but feeling so peaceful and knowing this was from God. I looked out
    of a window and the mist or condensation caused the light of the moon to form a cross.
    I did not hear words; but I was filled with a sense that God wanted me to know all will be well.
  2. I was living a poor life. I didn’t go to Church thinking I didn’t need to go. At 22 I dreamed I was in a grey room, I just escaped a trial of some sort; and a golden while Light swirled above me and said gently but firmly, ‘why are you doing this to your mother?’
  3. Before the years of repenting then rationalizing, repenting again; our Justice of The Peace marriage, I dreamed that I was a branch on the Tree Of Life breaking off into the Eternal Flames, but the other branches were helping me listen to God.


A taste of inner peace and being cared for by God my whole life overwhelmed me.
I sensed that now I’m learning to cheerfully seek the difficult and narrow way to life,
that Jesus Christ told us to do; and avoid the wide path of destruction.
There is a lot of ambiguity today.
Trust Jesus Christ who taught purity, relying on Him for true inner conversion,
to desire His Law as sweeter than honey. And in that to care for others with sincere charity.
Our Beloved Savior taught clarity, and to make our ‘yes’ mean ‘yes,’ and our ‘no’ mean ‘no.’
And He gives the power to take holiness, chastity, and celibacy in thought, word, and action seriously, and attainable for inner peace.



I think you have received quite a few good answers here. The rule here is to live chastely which is a virtue and which we can and ought to grow in. We can also meditate and keep in mind Jesus’ words ‘But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart’ (Matt. 5:28). Homosexuality is an unnatural disordered sexual desire or inclination but not a sin in itself unless acted upon. Most heterosexual people probably also experience disordered sexual desires (not of the SSA type) such as myself possibly all the time and even daily such as fornicating, adultery, masturbation, looking at porn, etc. And sometimes or possibly oftentimes we may fall but that is what the sacrament of confession is for. We need to keep up the effort and struggle, pray, and rely on God’s grace.

For example, if my friend is attracted to someone of the same gender, is she gravely sinning when she thinks about that person (presuming her thoughts aren’t lustful)?

I would think if her thoughts aren’t lustful, than no. Lustful thoughts would be thinking about illicit sexual acts and that cause arousal. Just because some person experiences SSA doesn’t mean they can’t have a chaste friendship with people of the same sex. Even heterosexual people have friends with people of the same sex and very close friendships. The second greatest commandment as Jesus taught us is to love thy neighbor as thyself. Through charity we love all people male or female.

If she remains friends with a woman she is attracted to, is that sinful?

Not if it is a chaste friendship. But I would counsel to avoid anything that might cause scandal to others which would probably involve unchaste acts anyhow. SSA people should not try to rationalize the SSA desire as something natural and thus that they can legitimately engage in sex acts in the same manner a man and woman legitimately can. They can turn this cross to good with the help and grace of God and love chastely and purely everyone as we all should. Just because some person experiences SSA doesn’t mean they can’t love chastely a person of the same sex and be close friends with them. It is not a sin if they experience lustful thoughts arising in them to people of the same sex. It becomes a sin to dwell and consent to these thoughts and act on them. The christian practice of the virtue of chastity whether single or married is probably a struggle for most people. We are not angels.



With all due respect, this is nonsense. I’ve lived in friendships (some of them close friendships) with men and women I’m attracted to all my life. I’ve never once fallen into sin with any of these people.

Never. Once.

The OP’s friend should relax and be friends with whoever she wants to be friends with.

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Do not copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
-Romans 12:2
There are no impure thoughts in Heaven, since nothing defiled enters therein.
The Holy Spirit gives the power to stop having them.
" 20 He continued: “What comes out of a man, that is what defiles him. 21 For from within the hearts of men come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery,h 22 greed, wickedness, deceit, debauchery, envy, slander, arrogance, and foolishness. 23 All these evils come from within, and these are what defile a man.” Matthew 7:20-23
" 20 But this is not the way you came to know Christ. 21 Surely you heard of Him and were taught in Him, in keeping with the truth that is in Jesus, 22 to put off your former way of life, your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23 to be renewed in the spirit of your minds; 24 and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness." - Ephesians 4:20-24

Lustful thoughts are a sin, they are graphic in nature.

Natural attraction thoughts are not a sin, unless it is some kind of obsession.

The Good News is; that cooperating with God’s Grace, His Power in a person,
overcomes these things. Just like a drug addict can overcome addiction.

God gears a mind toward positive thoughts, and using those thoughts for prayer,
words and actions.

God has Perfect Covenant Love for each of us; trust God. The more we trust God,
the greater the inner peace, and the easier the struggle. Keep up the good fight.



What the Church teaches about homosexuality? Wellllll the short answer is, “It’s wrong.” But for any further evidence for why it’s wrong can be found in the non-biblical context. For instance, I heard that a disproportionate number of homosexuals struggle with depression and suicidal thoughts. NOT counting the “homophobia” they say they get. More of them have domestic abuse with their partners than heterosexuals do. They tend to be more promiscuous than heteros. What does that tell you? That they are happy in the long term because of their choice? Well, from what I personally hear…no. Of course, you can debate me on this (Again I’ve only HEARD these things), but I suggest your friend find this evidence for herself, if she does, which might strengthen her conviction to make the right choice.
Yes, i think a platonic friendship is fine, as long as she is positive it won’t cause an irresistible temptation for her. Also if she is actually mistaking SSA for a platonic one. A platonic one can have all the benefits to the intimacy that many girls seek (cuddle, holding hands) without getting romantic. Perhaps she’ll change as she matures and will fall for guys.



Being homosexual isn’t a sin, acting on it is. Love the sinner but hate the sin. Here are two Bible verses for you to reflect on:

“For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.””

  • Galatians 5:14 (love them as human beings)

“‘Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable.’”

  • Leviticus 18:22 (Sexual acts of homosexuality are wrong, this means marriage between two men or two women is wrong)

Therefore we can read this Bible verse with more understanding: “But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.“ - 1 Corinthians 7:2

This verse mentions a husband with a wife or a wife with a husband and since marriage between two of the same sex is restricted due to Leviticus mentioned above, this verse in Corinthians expands upon this


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