I am completely lost on what to do with my brother. To cut an extremely long story short my brother has ever since he could walk and talk been a black sheep. He is all but exiled from our family due to the fact he has on his own driven our family into the ground. The constant lies and thieving (we are talking going into family bank accounts and emptying them and things of that nature, not just petty theft) are only a small part of what he does. Its the emotional blackmail and constant harassment of family members that are currently causing a lot of grief.
My oldest brother and I are far better at dealing with this as we grew up with him, but he is targeting my parents and other weaker members of my family such as my desperately ill grandmother. I have watched my parents over the years go from the extremely happy outgoing loving people they once were to the constantly depressed, angry and beaten people they are now days. Not a day goes by that he isnt up to some form of emotional bullying, thieving or spreading lies.
He refuses to get a job because he "doesnt like work" and lives off of government handouts + what he can steal/bribe out of the family. I dont use this word lightly but he is pure scum, he is evil and will never change.
I live in the same town as he does (lucky me) and as my mother lives some 90 miles away and cannot handle him in person, I am the one who is sent to take him shopping or drop off money when my parents have simply had enough and given in. I am fine with this as he is scared of me due to my size and occupation and knows I simply wont stand for his rubbish. Yesterday was one of these days where my mother was at work and being bombarded with hundreds of calls from him so she gave in and asked me to take him food shopping and put money into his account. He had told her he had a money off voucher so if she sent him x amount he could spend y amount instead. Turns out (surprisingly) this was a lie, however he still spent her money on his shop. This left me angry enough. The sight of him on a good day literally sends a shiver down my spine, he disgusts me and makes me feel dirty.
On the way dropping him home I had to stop for gas so whilst I filled the car up, I gave him the money and sent him in to pay for it. Thinking nothing of my STUPID lapse in judgement off we went and I carried on my day. Skip to the evening after I had finished working I got a phonecall from my parents asking me to call them. The police from my town had contacted the police from their town to inform them I had ran away without paying for my gas and that I MUST go and pay it now or I face prosecution. I was shocked as I have never dealt with police in my life! It turns out he used the money to buy cigarettes even though I had just given him two packets out of my own money!!
These are just a few examples of the type of person he is, every chance to abuse somebody he takes. He is a leech who feeds off of the weak. I hate him with every fiber of my being.
What on earth am I to do with somebody like this? Catholic friends say to forgive and forget, but he wont stop, ever!
Sorry for the venting, but thank you for reading. Any and ALL advice is appreciated.