I know, I know, pray.
Here's the situation. When we started dating, we were both, for all intents and purposes, atheists. We had both been baptized catholic but grew up in what would be called 'cultural catholic homes'. Pretty much the last time either of us had seen the inside of the church was for our first (and apparently last) communion.
We weren't married long before I got pregnant. Nine months later, the twins showed up. (Thanks birth control pill, you really helped me out there...). And it was after that that I really examined our lives and, as any parent out there probably already knows, risks you might have been willing to take with your own life, immortal or otherwise, you aren't willing to take with your children's. I returned to the church.
My husband doesn't have a problem with me raising them in the faith. And we started using NFP, which he also didn't have a problem with (it certainly helped by the way taht condoms are so gross, and the BCP makes me all wacky in the head, so I think he was kind of happy to switch to NFP actually)
It just devastates me because he doesn't participate in it with me. He will come to mass, grudgingly. I not only have to get myself and the kids ready, but him to. ('No, you can't wear pajamas to mass. You can't even wear them to Wal-Mart. How about you wear pants? Those are nice, too.') it's alot of work. It's easier to prepare twin two-year olds for Mass than one 30 year old man who would rather sleep in.
I remind him that all of the Catholic teaching I give the kids won't matter a LICK if he isn't involved. They'll simply shrug it off later as something wacky mom does. :shrug:
Still, how can I get through to him? I have tried giving him books to read, but he won't open them. I have tried inviting him to various events at the parish, particularly men's events (where people he likes are attending by the way) and he won't go.
Any advice? I would like to raise my children in a catholic home, but it's increasingly difficult with a husband who finds the whole thing to be nonsense.