there is someone that I am related to who does not think it’s wrong to tell “white lies”
as a result, they end up telling little lies about many things. the problem I am having is they often tell lies about my stuff. where I’m going, what I’m doing. they think that if people know where I go on vacation for example, they will get jealous. or if people hear that where I work, they’ll try to sabotage me. or people I know hear that I’m not doing well in school, they will think I’m weak. Or you don’t want to tell people the truth because you will hurt their feelings. etc… Etc…
most of the time, lies are told when I am not even there for a conversation. and even when I am, if someone asks me a question, this person will cut in and answer for me.
I’ve tried and tried to express my views on this sort of thing. nothing changes. what is the best course of action? I realize that these types of lies may not necessarily be mortal sin material but I just don’t see the point. why bother lying about stuff like that? and lies always just builds up to more lies and bigger lies.
should I just interrupt the conversation next time this happens. but of couse, this will make it very obvious that this person is lying if I confront in front the person that they are lying to, if they haven’t already figured it out.
any thoughts? it really drives me crazy