My wife is Catholic but does not believe in the Church’s teaching on birth control. I used to agree with her, but over the past several years have begun to deepen my faith and now want to follow the Church’s teaching. She has threatened me with divorce if I don’t get a vasectomy once we reach middle age. (Thankfully the time for that is still some years away – we’ve only been married for 3 years.) She absolutely refuses to practice, or even consider NFP, which she calls “nonsense.” I am unwilling to get a vasectomy and I do not want to use birth control. I am willing to abstain altogether – which would be difficult – if that is what it takes to not commit sin.
She thinks that I am a “Bible banger” and am in need of serious help. We are both on opposite sides and it is creating a huge divide in our marriage. What can someone do it they really want to follow the church’s teaching but thier spouse will not go along with it? What if divorce is threatened? What if a compromise cannnot be reached?