I would appreciate a male perspective on this if anyone wants to give one.
My husband and I have been married for two years. He has a daughter (age 7.5) that lives with us full time from a previous marriage. I have a daughter (age 5.5) that lives with us full time from a previous relationship. We also have a daughter (got pregnant very soon after we got married) that is 18 months old and has Down syndrome. The Ds isn’t an issue at all, to me, but I’m mentioning it so you can get the full picture. She’s the best thing that has ever happened to our family, in my opinion and my girls and husband adore her as well.
I want more kids. Specifically, I feel called by God to adopt another child. Even more specifically, a special needs child. My husband says that three kids is enough. He broke my heart last night when he said that he only really wanted one kid (not one of ours specifically, but in general) but ended up having one, falling in love with someone who had one and marrying them, and had another one. He said that three is more than enough.
Now, when we were dating he said that he’d love a big family like his parents. They had seven kids in 6 years. He said it was crazy but he loved it. I come from a family of four and have always wanted a big family.
How do we go about this? Has anyone been in this situation before? I’m just crushed right now. I’m not saying that I want another child tomorrow, I just want him to say ‘maybe’. It doesn’t help that he really doesn’t have a relationship with God and I think loves material things more than people.
Thank you for reading.