what is a good strategy for questions that you get asked and you know the answer will make the other person angry? and I obviously don’t want to lie.
is it acceptable to change the subject? or just not say anything?
what if through the discussion, they come to a conclusion that isn’t true even if you didn’t specifically say something? do you have an obligation to correct them?
here is an example.
person: “what did you do for volunteering”
me: “science and special ed”
person: “what time of day did you help out the science teacher”
me: “in the morning”
person: “for how long?”
me: “about three hours”
person" “oh i see, so so science in the morning and special ed in the afternoon”
then I changed the subject and talked about something else
well actually, special ed was also in the morning but I left the school in the afternoon to go see my friend who is in the hospital. but saying that I left early would have made them mad. I knew that if I had said that special ed was also in the morning then they would have asked me what I did in the afternoon and I didn’t want to tell them that.
but with the information they received, the person made an assumption that didn’t up being true even they didn’t actually formulate the last sentence like a question and I never said special ed was in the afternoon. am I responsible for that?
situations like this happen all the time with various people. you don’t want ot lie but telling the truth makes them angry. and saying you don’t want to talk about it also doesn’t work, they just ask more. sometimes if I change the subject or don’t answer, they keep pressing
I guess I’m wondering if it is considered, in general, to be dishonest to not mention specific things if you know the other person will get mad at you