I have a friend who I have known for 25 years, since high school. We were extremely close then and in our twenties/thirties and we were both partiers, young and wild and living a very unwholesome promiscuous life. I have changed my life slowly since about 2006 and am now a Catholic, go to Mass each week, take part in the sacraments, etc. I have repented of a lot of sins of my former life (still working on others) I know I am a horrible sinner and I am not throwing stones, but I’m starting to wonder if I am putting myself in moral jeapordy just being around this person.
I only see her now about 1-2 times per year, mostly she will come to hang out and clean my house in exchange for helping her with money or other things sometimes. She has continued to live her life in a disastrously sinful way. She has one other Catholic friend who has tried to tell her as I have that she needs to quit sinning and get back to God and Jesus, but it has no effect, and I don’t think it will anytime soon.
On the short list she has had multiple kids out of wedlock with different fathers, has never worked, married someone and has slept with all of his three brothers, got impregnated by a 15 year old when she was in her twenties, and has a parade of drunken sometimes violent men in and out of her household with her kids all watching this. Her only focus in life is men and alchohol.
I found out this year that the former 15 year old who is now in his thirties, duped her into flying her and the son they had together to fly to New York to be on the Jeremy Kyle show, where he wanted to expose to the world that she was a sex offender, shame her, and get a DNA test. She refused to go on the show and her and her son ended up stranded in New York City…its just stuff like this all the time.
Whenever I or her other friend try to help her by reminding her about God, she just says that God forgives. I truly think that she thinks that she’s fine and that God will forgive her for whatever she does but that she doesn’t have to change anything in her life. I am extremely worried about her soul. I want her to see the light and change because if she doesn’t I’m afraid she will go to hell.
Is it my responsibility to keep at her about changing her life and getting back to God?
Should I not associate with her at all and just pray for her from a distance?
Is it a sin to keep associating with her?
This has bothered me for quite awhile.