My brother called me this morning and informed me that our 13 year old cousin stole his grandmother’s (my aunt’s) credit card and put $4000 worth the charges on it. He bought cell phones and ipods over the internet and gave them to his friends and kept some for himself.
My cousin’s mother is very limited. Though, she is cognizant enough to know better. She is on welfare, has 3 men living in her house and is on drugs. For these reasons my 13 year old cousin lives with my aunt. When I lived at home I used to take him places and buy him things, I even tutored him in school. I would pick him up once a week and we would do things together because I was hoping that my positive influence would deter him from following a path like his mother’s.
He is very smart. He gets good grades in school and is a sweet kid. I think he just succumbed to peer pressure. My aunt kicked him out of her house and had him arrested. He is now back living with his mother again, and I know that’s the last place he wants to be. I think after things cool down, he’ll be back living with my aunt…this just happened a few days ago.
My brother and my dad suggested that I go talk to him. I haven’t talked to my aunt yet, but I am sure she’d want me to say something to him, also. I will be going home this weekend and I wanted to stop by his house and have a good, long talk to him. He and I were very close at one time, he still calls me Aunt Kim.
What should I say to him, or suggest? I have so many things I want to say to him but I don’t want to drive him away from me. I don’t want to patronize him and make him feel like a child. I want to show him that his actions can really hurt his future since he has so much potential. I just don’t know how to present it…I also want to try to get him interested in a church youth group…what do you all think?