Duesenberg not meaning any disrespect because I can tell from your posts that you are very dedicated to serving the Church and you seem to have been doing so for a very long time. I admire your dedication. We need so many more people like you who care so much about the Catholic Mass. I totally understand your desire for things to be 100% correct and proper. I desire this as well when it comes to Mass. And anybody that knows me KNOWS when it comes to the Catholic Church, the Catholic Faith and especially the Catholic Mass I do NOT compromise. I am as conservative and traditional as they come. The Mass is THE most important part of the week for me as a Catholic. It should be the MAIN part of our week that everything else revolves around. But a lot of what you point out, as helpful as it all is, seems to be so overly narrowly focused on appearance. I just wonder why? Yes there are boundaries, there are rules, there are reasons for everything done in the Mass, it all means something. But then I think of Jesus at the Last Supper. He saw the heart, He didn’t see the clothes or the education or the manners. He saw the heart. He saw the love of those men for Him and for His Father and for the Faith. He saw those men so human, so flawed, so uneducated, so raw but He also saw that they were to be His 12. The ones He would use to keep that Faith alive and spread it throughout the world. He used the least so that we could all have the most. He entrusted everything to them. Now like I said I mean no disrespect because I understand how things are supposed to be and I DO understand why—It is Our Lord we are talking about. But when I participate in Mass I am there for God. I am there for Him alone NOT for me, for Him. It is ALL for Him. I don’t have time, desire or inclination to notice what, when, where or how about the other people there. I am just so glad they are there. I do NOT want the Mass to turn into a beach party, a concert, a sports outing or a free for all or anything similar or as casual as that because that is what it will NEVER be. So many people feel so UNwelcome and judged when they attend a Catholic Mass. They feel that we are looking down on them and we are actually disappointed in them in many ways. We must teach them the correct ways but we must do it with LOVE! I am not perfect, FAR from it. I make quite a few mistakes as a Reader at Mass, as a Sacristan and as a lay Catholic in the pew. Father himself has had to correct me on things.(more in another post).