I am in such a situation at the moment. And it is tearing me to pieces. I am sure most of you guys have read my threads. About how my husband left me for a younger women after been together for 12 years and having two kids and now we are going through the divorce process. All this happened last year this time. And it has really taken me a long time to get over it. And finally I am 101% better.
I have been wanting to post this thread for a long time now. I have prayed about it for so long now. Anyway I have this friend she and I live next door to each other. And she has supported and been there for me during this tough time. Anyway about 3 months ago I found out that her husband is having an affair but it was by accident at first I thought that his friend was in the relationship with this young girl. Anyway I confronted him and told him that he must put an end to the relationship as he is going to hurt his wife. And I do not want her to suffer. Anyway about two weeks ago she came to tell me that she found out about her husband and this young girl. And she was hurt but I felt her pain as I had already been through this before. I did everything in my power to protect her as I did not want her to suffer the pain that I did. She is not working and is totally and completely reliant on her husband. He apologised to her and told her that he wants to work on the marriage.
She has been wanting to confront this girl and beat her up. And she wants me and another friend to go there with her. First of all if she beats up this girl there will be charges laid against her and also she will find out things that she does not want to know. And I wanted to prevent her from going through that because I know how it feels. I also confronted my ex girlfriend and I beat her up and still he left it made no difference doing that. I felt like an idiot because I made a fool of myself. And what satisfaction would she have gotten. I wanted to prevent her from seing this girl as she is very young, slim and trim and everything that this friend is not. She is over 40yrs and is not slim and trim. And she would be reminded of this for the rest of her life. And also I did not want to be the cause of the breakup of their marriage. There are kids involved and I did not want them to suffer.
But guess what I am the bad one. She found out that I knew about it and that I am a back stabber. I was her friend and why did I not tell her and I was laughing behind her back about this whole situation. And the more I say to her that this was not my fault I wanted to protect her the more she bad mouths me. And is drinking and going on with me on the phone. And I was preventing her from going to this girls house because I knew everything. And I was making her a fool. What kind of a friend am I. The things she said to me were unforgivable. I was trying to protect a friend and I am the one that gets a kick in the face and blamed.
Was I wrong not to tell her, was I wrong to not want another women to suffer the way I did. My marriage is over he made the choice he choose the teenager. Her husband choose to be with her and still she wants to dick and found out things. I wish I did not know the things I did. There was a point where I relived my own situation and it nearly destroyed me. She does not care about herself or the kids. She does not care if she goes to jail for beating up this girl. Her life is over as she says. What about those kids who will take care of them. The father works all the time so those kids will be on their own all the time.