I have posted about my situation before. Things have not gotten better.
So I’m now trying, once again, to try to understand what is going on with my husband.
Any honest responses, especially from men, would be appreciated.
I’m at the end of my rope, and am very close to walking out.
Our marriage is not our first, for either of us.
After eight very happy years, We retired and moved to a different place that we thought would be a wonderful place to live and base to explore the area, and do things we never had the time for before retirement.
Husband has always been sweet, and generous. I had been a stay at home wife and mother until we got together, then I managed to carve out a nice little niche by teaching.
Within six months of retirement, hubby was back at work. Gone from the house for two weeks out of four.
Money is now his all consuming interest. We do not need more money, but he wants as much as he can possibly earn. He goes back to our prevevious place and sees his daughter, and his friends and family every month.
In the meantime, I am stuck at home, alone, pet sitting. There are no jobs where I live, and the nearest town is 2.5 hours away. I am honestly alone in the woods with little to do, or people to see for half of my life.
I am terribly depressed. I miss the place we used to live, and I miss the life I used to have. I cry all the time, I sometimes want to die. I often go for those 15-17 days alone without even seeing another soul except on TV. After months of fighting, hubby agreed to move. We even found a wonderful place that is even better than the property we have now. House is up for sale.
However hubby insists our present property be priced too high. We have had two showings in six months, one of which was another realtor. Hubby refuses to,ower the price to something reasonable for the market here. He wants to make 80,000$ On a property we have owned for two years.
We have money in the bank, but hubby refuses to use it to buy the new property, and he refuses to take out a mortage. He makes more now, than when he was working full time before retirement. And we have a generous final salary scheme type pension.
We are not wealthy, but we are more than comfortable.
To me, it seems he is playing games and has no intention of moving. He can say he has tried, but he has no control over selling the present house, he can just shrug his shoulders and look chagrined.
Can any man out there give me some light on what in the world has happened to my husband? Why is money now so important to him? Why is he suddenly so concerned about money when we have more now than ever? Why is he so willing to trade me and my well being for cash?
We have plenty of savings AND a pension that would make most couples whoop in joy for, plus the money he makes now consulting. He just seems to want to see the numbers get bigger and bigger. Perhaps he is getting some respect he didn’t get before, but it’s going to cost him a lot more than that.
I have posted on this before, but not in quite this way.
I am so ready to leave him, truly on the edge of walking out, and have been for months.
But I am reluctant because up until his retirement he has been a wonderful husband and we were quite happy.