I might be wrong thinking this—but I felt it is rude. Please correct me if I am wrong.
You see, I love to wear make-up. I have been wearing make-up for decades. I have an artistic inclination and I usually express this in wearing make-up in a way that I feel enhances the way I look.
Its my personal choice and most of the time people do not comment negatively and most of the time get compliments.
In my work as a dentist I got compliments from patients and got asked out by men and women who wanted to be my friend. Perhaps, its my personality, but I think make-up did help improve my professional look.
Some people, though, I feel, react to it in a strongly negative, vocal,hurtful manner and I don’t know why.
You see, I am studying nursing as a second course. Our professor told us to wear a little make-up while on hospital duty to help us look presentable to patients. Me—I’m game with that coz, I’m an expert doing my own make-up and I know what fits me.
Yesterday, before going to the hospital, I remember asking our housekeeper if my make-up was ok and if I looked neat enough . She said I looked fine.
After that, I walked to the hospital from our house. When I reached the hospital one of the intructor nurse was taking a break with 11 of my co-students. She called me to sit beside her, saying, “Come here, I’ve been wanting to ask you this for a long time.” All my classmates–men and women – looked on as they were all seated around a table with her.
Then, in a loud voice, she asked me, “I’m just curious, what brand of make-up do you wear coz I want to buy it. It doesn’t melt in this heat.” Me–I was shocked, and didn’t know how to reply as I felt all my 11 classmates (second courser nursing students) began scrutinizing my face as to where I placed make-up, listening to her every word.
I just tried to recover my composure and just smiled weakly and pretended that it was skin-off my nose, that I felt she was being rude to me considering that I only met her a few days before.
I replied, “I use “water-proof” because there is no electric fan here.” (our duty was in a poor government hospital).
But she continued on saying, “Really, what’s the brand? I want to buy it! Show it to me!” I felt she was being too personal as she was just an acquantance.
Now, I remember this same thing happening with a co-worker before who thought I was after her crush.
When I got home, feeling a bit sad at what happened, I asked our housekeeper (who has been with us for decades and is like family already) again how I looked before I left for the hospital that day, if I had too much make-up on. She replied, “No you looked fine.”
I asked my close friend why some women react to me that way. She said that my problem was I is that I am too kind and I smile too much even if I feel people are hurtful already----people tend to see me as someone they can “lord” over. She advised me to have a sterner disposition.
Me–I feel I really don’t wear make-up for other people. I wear it because I like looking good. I don’t use it to hurt others.
When I see someone who is kind and smiles at me—I don’t think “This person is easy to “lord” over.” --let me see how far I can go. --I never think that way.
I hate being the object of scrutiny.
Also, I am not the type of person who can easily find a retort to an unexpected verbal offense.
Anyone here, please help me understand if I am wrong in thinking that this nurse-instructor was being mean to me. Maybe, I could be wrong in thinking she was being rude and that shouldn’t be reacting this way or feeling hurt. Should I be offended?