I recently e-mailed two canon lawyers with a question about the sacrament of confession. Both lawyers have respectable blogs online and appear orthodox. But the answers I received back were very different! One said something akin to “What you asked about is perfectly acceptable. This is not controversial at all” and the other said something like “Easy question - what you described is absolutely forbidden.” Neither elaborated much beyond that.
So… who do you trust when there are conflicting sources online and the two experts you ask give two very different answers?