[quote="Seaborgium, post:1, topic:332212"]
When Catholics try to push you into taking up a vocation, are they doing it for themselves or for the individual ?
Is it for the sake of the catholic community advantage or for the individual's advantage?
The community gains but does the individual gain from taking up a vocation?
Obviously taking up an oath to vocations is not an easy thing to do, so it's a false premise for a vocation if people are saying 'oh you'll be a great such and such"... why don't you take up a religious life?
Why are they doing it (persuading) me into religious life, I've only said I thought about it. I know the implications and I know what I am like ( a vacillator).
In the end, I am culpable, don't they know this?
Some parents try to steer their kids into specific careers--doctor, lawyer, priest, etc-- because it's what* they* want for themselves for various reasons...sometimes for prestige or they feel money is most important.
Sometimes they do feel they know best for their kid, but they don't always.
Ever see the film Saturday Night Fever? A classic.
There's a very touching scene--the writer took it from a real life moment--when the elder son leaves the priesthood and explains to John Travolta's character that he felt pressured by their parents to go into a religious vocation even though part of him deep down inside didn't feel it was right for him.
He says something like:
"They had dreams of pious glory. They turn you into what they wish at the time. You can't defend yourself against their fantasies. All I ever really had any belief in was their image of me as a priest..."
Their parents felt somehow that if he was a priest, he further says, it made their family holier than others. But their pushing ended up backfiring.
If you are feeling pressure from your own parents or others, I'd suggest you let them know straight that you are not certain of what you are going to do yet and you still have much looking around and experiencing to do first and...to please...ease up! :)