There’s no reason to get into a relationship if one isn’t in love. If one falls in love when already within a relationship, then something was too hasty, but luckily it turned out well.
Please note that falling in love when already in a relationship and falling in love with a friend are not the only two possibilities. You can fall in love during the phase in which you get to know someone whom you could hardly call a trusted and tested friend.
(In my case, I’m lucky to have logic on my side as well!)
I don’t know what the heck I am and how fast I’m moving and in what way…LOL
All I know i that I’m tired of standing around and doing nothing. Things need to move forward.
That’s what I’m talking about. Don’t I make a fine interrogator?
But it’s good you want to do something. Hasty action is bad, but inaction isn’t great either. So, ready to look the father in the eye?
Heck yeah!! I’m talking about stuff that just moved my entire being just thinking about it!
Let’s return to the beginning. I can see that it has moved your entire being. I still ask if all those things convinced you.
Hint: Sometimes we fill the gaps.
So she needs to convince me? Or what? I don’t think that’s necessary. For some reason, sometimes I feel like I need convincing, but I think that’s just because I’m not thinking! I’m feel like that at around midnight when I go to bed! I am tired and not thinking clearly! Or perhaps the devil is trying something. The idea of me needing to be convinced about my feelings for her is absurd when you know all (or even some) of the details!
I’m not explaining this properly…I hope I’m not coming off as foolish.
Nope, she doesn’t. The point is that no matter how hard you tell yourself something, it won’t really give you true conviction. The latter only comes in a natural way. So, would you say that you aren’t filling any gaps?
Very true. But perhaps I shouldn’t say “official” but rather just say “honest”
I read you. Now that’s something interesting.
When the couple is honest with each other about their feelings, they will be honest about everything else (eventually at least) When you find out that this person loves you more than you can imagine, you will realize that you can count on them. If you are having trouble, they can be your support. And vice versa. That brings the relatioship to a more honest level.
I see. So you concentrate more on both of you admitting the feelings (presuming she has some) to each other than on publically laying a claim.
I want to be there for her like that, but there’s this wall that prevents me from doing so. That is simply because that would be crossing some boundry that her father has set.
Nah, let’s not overestimate it. Her father can’t forbide you to talk to her and he can’t prevent you from standing for her. He can only limit your ability to take care of her by physically being there, or restrict your communication. But he can’t fully prevent the bond you talk about and certainly not the feelings which lead to it.
Now, I know what you’re thinking. Even after I tell her, how do I know the wall will go away?
Nope, hasn’t crossed my mind yet.
Trust me. It will. Sure it may not go away on its own, but if I explain how I feel about something, then she’ll open up to me more.
Be careful. As much as you may have everything planned, as you may be convinced and fully certain, there are still other factors. There’s she, there’s her father. There’s always God’s will able to change any human plans. Much may happen yet.
Yeah! I’ve only see you do it once! But even then, it was just pointing out the paradox that is romance and love…
I’m a lawyer not a lover.