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I suppose in secular dating, kissing on the first date isn't uncommon. I'm more interested in what happens in Catholic dating. At which point during the dating/relationship/courtship, did you share your first kiss (on the mouth) with your partner-in-kissing? After the first date, second date, third date, fourth date? Or after becoming exclusive, becoming engaged, or at the alter? Or more specifically, after you kissed on the cheek, how soon did you transition to kissing on the mouth?
Last but not least, I want to say that I would respect the girl's boundaries no matter what. Thank you.
My husband and I corresponded online for several months before we met in person. During part of that time, we had phone dates.
I always went back and forth on whether or not to wait till marriage to kiss someone again. I discussed it with my husband and we overall hadn't made a consistant decision on it before we met, though we intended not to kiss. We met in person. liked each other still and decided to court. Strange to say, but I honestly don't remember our first kiss. I don't remember how we ended up kissing, but technically it was the first date. We then decided not to kiss again and overall went back and forth on this throughout our courtship. It was easy to get caught up in a rule and to look for ways to still let your lust find expression and bend the rules. I didn't want to get so hooked on the rules that we lost the point in chastity, but we knew boundaries were important and thus rules were important. If we slipped too far, than we'd get more strict and be good for awhile till we got overconfident again.
I am glad now though that we took the rules as a battle ground. If we found ourselves falling backward, we'd take the offensive and come up with stricter rules to help us and to help win the battle over our hearts. Another thing that helped was praying the liturgy of the hours together.