*Many of you on here know that my sister is divorced, never sought out the annulment process. She was married for nearly 30 years, she left…and was the initiator of the divorce. That said, when discussing the annulment process with her, at one point, she seemed like she was going to investigate it. But, she never has since. She is dating…not just dinners and movies…but she has become intimate with a few of the gentlemen she has been dating. I have been praying for her that she looks into the annulment process, because truthfully, as we all know, she should not be dating.
Yesterday, she sends me an email…that she ‘‘doesn’t know why God doesn’t send her a nice man…that she thought she’d be remarried by now.’’ (she has been legally divorced for 5 years)
What should I say in these circumstances?
b) tell her she shouldn’t be dating, since her marriage is still valid in the eyes of the Church (I have said this in the past, in gentle ways, but she doesn’t want to hear it)
c) wish her well in searching for a new husband
Since it was in email form, I chose “a”…to ignore it, and asked about other things. I have discussed this with her, but when does it get to the point where you come off as a broken record, or irritating to the other person? I just want her to see that she shouldn’t be dating at all, until she finds out if she was in a valid marriage. Her reasons for wishing to not explore it, is because she said that she feels it was valid, but that it just didn’t work out. That her ex husband would be insulted if she asked for an annulment. The conversations gets dropped for a while, and then it comes up again…we keep going round and round in circles. I can’t force her to do anything–I can only pray for her, and gently point out Church teachings. But, beyond that…what do I say, if anything, when she says these things about dating?
My opinion? She is NEVER going to remarry, or meet a decent man…because it’s not God’s will…how could it be God’s will if she STILL IS married? Should I say that to her? :o*