I'm in a venting mood today.
Does anyone else out there have friends who always come running for your gracious hospitality but very rarely reciprocate. I have a friend from church whom has 3 kids , the same age as my first 3. I have had her and her family over for BBQ's and my husband and I have even taken them to a baseball game when we had tickets to a sold out game. She just put in a beautiful pool in the start of this summer. She has not yet invited us over for a swim. I called her one day just to say hi (we havn't seen them over the summer yet) I left her a voice mail. She still hasn't called me back. but i know they have had people over, another church friend has been over to her house for swim in there new pool.
And my other friend, the one whose son I take home from school during the school year 1 to 2 times a week and watch for hours so the mom who works at home can get some work done has only had my son over 2 times this summer for a swim in her pool. and 1 of those times was for her sons birthday party.
I am so tired of always being the one with the one that hosts everyone all winter long and then get forgotton over the summer. I have several really young children and one on the way, so I don't feel comfortable putting a pool in our yard. (my 2 1/2 year old and 4 year old are climbers so even a fence does not make me feel safe).
We do have lots of friends with pools who have had us over for a dip on hot days, but my point is that people who you are generous too over the winter should be generous over the summer if they have the outdoor atmosphere. I don't want to invite myself over as that is rude and tacky. How would you handle these 1 way friendships? Should I just stop inviting them over in the fall and winter. their kids are friend with my kids so they see each other at school and activities.