[quote="Shae, post:1, topic:207489"]
When God knit my child in my womb 13 years ago, gave her them beautiful eyes and creamy complexion and the nature of a cherub, why also did her give her the genetic traits of a personality that would see her fall through the cracks in society. He said she will be this small and that height, with those eyes and that social phobia.
Her education is suffering.
When the chips are down its not Gods fault, but when they are up, that was God.I see this all the time. He can be responsible for both. I have prayed endlessly about her situation.
My daughter is being evaluated for severe social struggles at school.
I am frustrated and hopeless. If God is so responsible for our personalities as picked in genetics.
Why did he give her social anxiety. Have we not had enough struggles? I have had more than enough to just give up.
Are you sure this is due to genetics and not environment? because my first question is: has she ever been the victim of bullying at school? I was a victim of bullying that included being ostracized and physical and sexual assault. Sometimes the parents don't even know about the stuff that goes on. I had very little luck until I finally got out of the grade school I was in and got into high school. Then things were better.
Bullying can be a real problem and it is not always physical. It can be the "mean girl" comments about things like hair, clothing, etc, some people will always find something to criticize even if it is Catholic school and kids are wearing uniforms. And I think that still, in too many cases, the schools are not honest about what is happening. I can't speak to Catholic schools b/c I don't know the situation, but from what I understand, public schools still often tend to shrug off bullying or at most, tell the bully to "be nice" or etc. which essentially does nothing.
You may find you need to homeschool or transfer your daughter to another school.
How does she do in the summer? Does she have friends from church and/or other places that are not associated with school? Is she happy when school gets out and then very upset to start back again?
Some kids are sensitive and they don't do well with the insensitivity that other kids can show.
I don't think learning to fight back, verbally or physically, is always the answer. Sometimes it's just not worth it, the situation has deteriorated too much. After a while I just started ignoring people b/c I felt upset enough that I didn't much care about what any of them had to say. That stopped a lot of the insults b/c people realized I was not going to give them a reaction. However I was isolated until I made friends who were a year younger than I was, not typical but better than nothing.
I hope when she is evaluated, they talk to her about what her school life is like, rather than just viewing her as a "problem," even though she is having difficulty.