I’ve read this term on these boards a couple of times, but while I know what it is, I wonder it what situations they’d be granted. I ask, because it seems like a solution to an ethical dilemma I heard recently, dilemmas that could potentially happen to single people like me.
At a Theology on Tap event on ethics, someone asked if it was ethical to use a condom with your spouse if one partner was a carrier of HIV or HPV or some such. The ethicist correctly answered no, as 1) barriers are not allowed in marriage ever and 2) they’re not 100% effective, and it’s not very loving to even risk exposing a spouse to a disease.
So, a conclusion I made is that young 20-somethings who know they’re carriers of perpetual diseases from college-age indiscretions are now faced with a life of chastity and forever being in the singles corner “thinking about what they’ve done,” and they tell interested people that they cannot ever marry. This is presuming they were good and got tested.
But what if they don’t know they’re carriers until after they’ve had a conversion of heart, did penance, etc. and get engaged? Are they then obligated to break things off with their fiances (ruining two futures), or, since they were in marriage prep, can they be granted a Josephite marriage until medical technology comes up with a way to prevent transmission without needing to use barriers. Like the HPV vaccine for women?
And what if a male fiance is serving his country and gets injured much the way the main character did in The Sun Also Rises and doesn’t have, er, “functioning equipment.” By getting engaged to a woman, he was proclaiming he wanted to spend the rest of his life with just her. Could church authorities be compassionate and let the couple enter a Josephite marriage, with proper counsel?