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Alright....Today in the shower is was washing myself. I am not going to get explicit, but I began to commit an act of impurity. Then I was like NO!! and stopped before anything really happened. The same thing happened a few minutes later. I am not sure if it was a mortal sin or not. Yes? No? I might have given *slighest * consent but I didn't really ponder it beforehand. I have been struggling with this sin for quite a while and really want to beat it. Any suggestions?
Please read also my next Reply post # 06
From JAW642 on 05/26/2011
It’s easy to conclude, that you were taking a shower and you were washing your genitals. Every male ( and female ) must do this. Most likely, you were soaping up your testicles and penis, and in the process, the rubbing of your penis resulted in you giving yourself an erection. Two things were happening at the same time. First, you were washing and rubbing your penis, and second, it resulted in your getting an erection.
Based on the ‘principle of the twofold effect’, please read entire article below ], you have every moral right to wash and clean your penis and testicles, even when you know that you will most probably end up with an erection. You soaped up a second time, just like most people shampoo their hair two times, no big deal. You are allowed to continue to soap up and wash your erect penis, even for a second time, provided your main intention is primarily to clean your penis, and not simply to ejaculate.
Younger males are supersensitive when it comes to touching and handling their penis, so this reaction is not surprising or unusual or sinful. After a while you obviously realized that if you continued rubbing your penis, you might be close to causing your penis to ejaculate, so you decided to resist the temptation to ejaculate, you said NO, and you stopped before anything really happened.
I cannot believe how this activity could be a mortal sin for you. You stopped before anything serious really happened. I’m sure you didn’t start taking a shower for the sole purpose of playing with your penis and getting it hard. You took a shower to clean your body, including your testicles and penis, and while washing your penis, you instinctively, mechanically and automatically gave yourself an erection. As long as you expended some degree of effort to stop before going all the way, that effort should be enough proof that you cannot have FULL Consent, and therefore both instances were not mortal sin for you. Even if in your thought process, you MOMENTARILY had a thought that you may be committing, or may have committed, a mortal sin, that is not sufficient to make you guilty of a mortal sin.
You cannot GUESS that you might have committed a mortal sin. You cannot commit a mortal sin by Accident in such a short period of time. You have to KNOW POSITIVELY & FULLY that you are committing a mortal sin, and then deliberately and willfully continue to do it to. If you are not extremely and unquestionably POSITIVE that you have committed a mortal sin, then you simply CANNOT be guilty of committing a mortal sin.
You know that for a sin to be mortal, the act has to be seriously wrong, which washing your penis is NOT wrong. And you need FULL knowledge and FULL consent. The knowledge and consent can not be in doubt, or fleeting or instantaneous. Just the fact that you are asking these questions, means that you are not sure of whether your actions were mortal or not. Therefore, they cannot be mortal sin.
The Catholic Church says that if you are unsure of whether or not you have committed a mortal sin, YOU DEFINITELY HAVE NOT COMMITTED A MORTAL SIN. Mortal sins leave no room for uncertainty and must be deliberate. The Catholic Church defines such uncertain acts as ‘Doubtful Sins’, and the Church does not require them to be confessed, since they are not Mortal Sins.
Please realize that God knows that you are a young male, and that He loves you anyway !
From JAW642 on 05/26/2011