You ARE sharp. No one else has projected my “view” to that point, until you. What I would tell you would probably go against almost any theology in Christiandom, but I will give the 50 cent tour of what I think.
I have thought through my ideas to that point, and you are correct in your supposition. To propose that our soul is part of God would mean that no soul could suffer in Hell. But to get to that point requires more explanation.
To go back a step or two, although our soul is a part of God (just as everything else in the universe is, both material and spiritual), it is also imprinted with our own individuality. This is sort of the opposite of the belief that we are imprinted by God in certain sacraments, such as baptism. Our physical body and our soul combine to form our uniqueness. I have used the idea of salt (or other substance) dissolving in water as an analogy. One is contained in the other, the salt is invisible within the water although it is still there. The salt (or soul) has become infused into the water (our bodies). When the water evaporates (our bodies die) the salt (our soul) appears as it was before. The problem is that it may no longer be “pure salt”, as it has been contaminated with “sin”, which represents all of what we have said or done (or not done) that are not in accord with God’s wishes.
No one ever dies “pure”. However, some will be much more contaminated than others. God, in His infinite mercy, will purify each and every soul. The traditional way of looking at that process was called “purgatory”. In my view, this process is one in which we are shown the “truth”, see everything we have done, both good and bad (reliving our lives) but in a way that shows how each moment of our lives measures up to the standards given us by God. These standards are pretty general, basically what Jesus said about the most important commandments and certain other teachings (“Do to others what you want them to do to you”). As this “video” of our lives passes before us we see all this, and I believe we experience the ecstasy of when we live by His commandments and the agony of when we don’t. I think God will show us everything we did wrong, and everyone we hurt, and we will understand why it was wrong and the pain it caused (whether physical, emotional, or spiritual). The same would apply to everything we did that was “good”, but with different results, of course.
When that is over, we will then be purified and enter into eternal bliss with Him (heaven). If this isn’t far out enough for you, then you must consider that this would mean everyone, and I do mean EVERYONE, would eventually be absorbed into the “loving embrace” of God. That would include the most evil people you could think of, because they will have been purified as well. Even Judas will make it. I say WILL EVENTUALLY because this purification process could take a hundred billion years in human time, so Judas is still undergoing this process, in my theology, and it could be “painful”. On the other hand, for someone like Mother Teresa her “purification” will be in a heartbeat.
Now, to confuse some even further, keep in mind that God’s time is not our time. That is clearly stated in scripture. So although the process might take a thousand years for me but only one week for you (within our own perceptions) both times could actually occur simultaneously on “God’s time”. Think of moments in your life when time seems to slow down, and other times speed up. With God, this speeding and slowing is potentially infinite, so although it all starts at different times, the “end time” is the same for all.
So this means two things:
One, there will be no “final judgment” since it is continuously occurring and it also has already occurred. This may seem like a contradiction, but since time does not exist for God (at least not our time), everything occurs together for Him.
Second (and this is the BIGGY), there is no “hell”. To answer your original question, there therefore is no “eternal damnation.” No one spends an eternity in hell. There are several things that led me to this, in addition to what I stated above. First, if God is infinite, encompassing everything seen and unseen, where could hell be? There is literally no place for it. And the Devil? Nahhh. If God is truly all-powerful, He could squash the devil with his pinkie (if He had one). If God CAN’T do that, that means beelzebub is EQUAL to God. We then have TWO Gods, one good and the other evil. Don’t buy that either.
Now some people out there will get VERY upset with this. Keep in mind I don’t expect anyone else to believe it. And understand that although I think everyone will be “saved” it will take some of us longer (and some of you will say it will take a very long time for me). This is the very first time I have written this out, although it has been developing in my mind for many years. It is not complete and will need some refinement as I consider all the ramifications. So any comments and questions (like those of "praise Jesus" , “Katholish” and others) really help in developing and refining my philosophy.
Thanks for listening. See you ALL in heaven (I hope and pray).