I care a lot about other people’s feelings. I never want to hurt anybody.
I have been single all my life, and at least right now I think that is the right thing for me. I do a lot of volunteering and live a rather unstable life.
I have become friends with a guy I really like. It is typical for me that I am kind of naive and I believe a lot in friendship… and the wholw sexual aspect doesn’t play a big role in my life. (I am still a virgin).
He is a Protestant, but he came to mass with me twice. And I went to a Portestant service with him. But that was before he wanted to get really close.
Ok, here are some questions that have been going through my head:
Is it ok to try to stay friends… or will it hurt him more in the end? I was really honest with him. It is good to talk to him, and I want him to be happy, he has been dealing with so much depression in the last few years.
Is it ok for me to let him lay his arm around me, or am I causing him to feel something improper sexually?
If I feel a LITTLE bit of something too if a man lays his arm around me, is that ok? Or is that already a sin?
Since he says sex is really important for him, should I try to be that friend to him who will show him that non-sexual relationships are possible?
I am just a bit confused right now. I don’t want to hurt him. He is sweet, and we have a lot in common. But I do not want a sexual relationship.