My boyfriend and I are getting very serious about discerning marriage, to the point that he’s shopping for an engagement ring. He’s an absolutely wonderful man and a faithful Catholic, and we’re well-suited to each other. The thought of marrying him fills me with deep joy; I can’t imagine a better person with whom to share in the Sacrament of Matrimony.
When I think about our wedding liturgy itself, however, I’m slightly anxious. We’re both converts (2017 and 2018 Easter receptions) and the only Catholics in our families. His extended family generally views Catholicism with a reserved skepticism, aside from a few relatives who are prone to speaking candidly about their disapproval. They’re ultimately kind people who love him dearly, however, and they would probably attend the wedding.
Since the only guests who could receive communion at the wedding would be our still-modest circle of Catholic friends (and because of his family’s feelings about the Eucharist), it seems to make the most sense to be married outside Mass. Even that presents challenges, however: how would we find enough lectors? What happens if half or more of the guests stay silent during the responses? What if our wedding party were to consist entirely of non-Catholics?
Some of these discussions could be had with our pastor if/when the time comes, but I was wondering in the meantime if anyone had encountered a similar problem or had any advice.