I have written about my sister and her ex and their situation for the last 5 years. Thing are not good between them. I have asked for prayers in the intention forum. I have asked for advice and received great ones. I guess now, I am just tired and wondering when will the suffering end for these children. I know no one can answer that and I may just be venting, but I hope someone is listening. My sister and almost everyone in my family turns to me for words of encouragement and strength and I point them to God. I tell them to trust in the Lord and to trust in Him that he has a reason for allowing it all. I need your help now and you to tell me the same advice I give to my family for I get discouraged too. I get so overwhelmed.
To made a long story short, my sister's ex took her son on a so called visitation, it was not one of his, but one she allowed for her son wanted to see his dad. It was on MLK's day. He now is refusing to give her son back to her. He is not taking him to school and did not take him to his psychology appt. The law can not do anything. She has called the sheriff's office and showed up with them at his door, and they can't do anything for he is the other parent and shares custody even though it is not his visitation time. The police just say it is a court matter. This dad knows this for he is a cop and so is his wife and they knew the sheriff that showed up at their house. They were buddies. My sister's attorney said they can file an emergency motion tomorrow morning but it is really up to the judge if he considers it an emergency. They are going to mention that her son is going without his medication that is medically necessary and the dad doesn't seem to care and that he is not bringing him to school. He is not plannning on taking him to school tomorrow either. He didn't go today. That is all the lawyer can do. So this dad can keep his son as long as it takes the judge to get to the case. He will be found in contempt, but he probably knows that will just be a slap on the wrist. He told my sister today that change is going to happen and that his son needs a break from the school, the counselors, and her. The reason the dad is so afraid of the school is because this is a special behavioral school with psychologist that my nephew talks to and he has said too much already to make the dad look bad. He doesn't like that. He wants him out of this school. When my sister asked him why he didn't take him to school today, he said because his son didn't want to go and hates the school. That is not true, he loves that school. They are doing what is called "parent alienation" and my nephew who once loved his mother to death and did so much for her and had many interest has lost interest in everything except the obsession of wanting to be with his dad and hating being with his mother. His sister was so worried of never seeing him again that she called him tonight and her dad answered. She told her dad that she wanted to say good night to her brother and he said he had to think about it. He waited about two minutes before giving the phone to her brother, which we think he was telling his son what to say for she didn't get a chance to talk. He immediately said to her, "If you ever want to see me again, you need to come her. I am not going to school tomorrow" and hung up. She called me crying for her mother was taking an online test for her degree and didn't want to upset her. She called without her mom knowing. I felt so bad for her. She was angry at her dad for she said she knows her dad and knows he is the one putting all these thoughts in her brother. She said she saw it when she had to go on visitation but since he has not forced her in the last two months, he has been working on the son alone and is angry at her for not going willingly on his visitation. At Christmas, he gave her one gift and gave his son 7 gifts and than goes up to her and tells her why she only got one because she refuses to go on visitation with him.
I am concerned for I don't trust the justice system. We had a judge in the past that sided with the dad always even in the face of child abuse. We do have a different judge this time, but this attorney said he is not that great in protecting kids. Please pray and any words you can offer to me would be nice. I guess I am just tired and feeling down tonight. :(