I’ll be honest here. A lot of people I know, including myself, had parents who could be very moody, yell or do silent treatment for protracted periods of time over very little. Often the parent was themself ill or had an extreme stress in their life, such as economic, marital, death of their own parent or sibling. None of these situations involved a physical or sexual abuse or any neglect - the kids were fed, had clothing, washed etc. The degree to which kids were affected depended a lot on the individual child. I would imagine some of them relied heavily on siblings or grands.
Some of the girls I knew in high school who had stressful home lives of this type talked to the school counselor a lot. A couple of them practically adopted her as a second mom. A couple more attached themselves to favorite teachers (a mixed blessing) or just spent a lot of time out of the house. The vast majority of us with stressful lives with parents just moved out as quick as we could.
I am not trying to excuse away your parents’ actions. Just saying that these situations have happened. And I would also say that people varied in how much they wanted outside involvement. Some of us were protective of our parents and didn’t want outsiders butting in. In my case a boyfriend once tried to have a word with Mom. I was angry and embarrassed. I got another boyfriend who understood better and didn’t do that stuff, just listened to me vent and told me moms (including his) were weird sometimes and you had to just let it go. I very much loved that guy, and that was one reason why.
Sorry I do not have good advice for you…just pointing out not all kids want “help” when it’s not abuse or neglect.
As far as “emotional abuse is abuse”, I think it can be tricky to decide just what “emotional abuse” is.