…isn’t it assumed that you’ll be able to make it unless you let the hostess know otherwise? The reason I ask this is because my fiance and I were recently invited to a couple’s house for dinner. We accepted the invitation happily and arranged our schedules so we could attend. The morning of the dinner engagement I checked my voice messages and there was a message from the evening before asking if we were indeed coming to dinner because the hostess “hadn’t heard from us”. To make a long story short, I called up right away and said that we were coming as agreed upon–only to be told that they had made other arrangements because they hadn’t heard from us.
Is this the norm? I mean, I was brought up with the understanding that if you said you’d go to a party, you’d go and further RSVP’s weren’t necessary. The reason I ask is that the aquaintance in question is acting as if I was terribly rude and that she is trying to overlook my lack of manners by saying she “understands” repeatedly.
Did I do something wrong? Or is this just a silly situation that I should just let blow over…and then not accept any more dinner invitations from them again?