What are you supposed to do? EVERY DAY, and I mean EVERY DAY he complains and complains and complains about this - if he had just married somoene rich he wouldn't have the problems he has. He bought a business. His friend has a business and told him DON'T DO IT!!! He said it's hard and it's a struggle and financially it's going to be hard. But he wants what he wants and can't stand anyone to say no to him, so he did it, quit his job and dragged me along for it. We had a lot of debt over this and he will ask me do we have enough money for this or that? and then it just turns into a fight with him screaming if he just married someone rich, then he wouldn't have this worry. Then he tells me to tell my parents to SELL THEIR HOUSE ( or get a second mortgage) to give him the money to pay off the loan and he will pay it back to them. That's not going to happen. It's rediculous and I'm not asking them to do that. He says it's all MY fault that he doesn't have a good life. He should had married a model who was rich. I mean, sometimes I think he's like a crazy person. He complains about money but he gave thirteen THOUSAND dollars to a con artist who promised to pay off his business for him when his dead uncle's inheritance check came - what a joke. He was "friends" with the guy and I told him it was stupid to do that. We had to take loans on our cars and a line of credit and he gave it to that guy and he RAN. We have to pay it all back and he cries and wonders why it's so hard financially. Umm.....because of what HE did!!!!! It's still not paid off and it's just more debt on what we already owe.
Seriously I don't know what to do. I am sick of hearing him demand that I ask rediculous things of my family like tell them to sell my dead grandfather's property and give him the money or tell my mom and dad to get a second mortgage. It's looney.
We are not married in the church. I went to RCIA and couldn't become catholic because he thought it was a stupid requirement of the church to have to get married in the church. Now he's using it against me saying we are not valid when I did everything to make it valid and he wouldn't go through with it. Now there are two little children involved and I don't want to separate because of them but honestly I am on my last straw with him. And I can't take it. It's not my fault he jumped into this business. It's not my fault he chose to marry me and I wasn't some hot, rich model then. He says I forced him. That's just stupid. He's several years older than me and I was the one just out of high school that he came after and then thinks I forced him into it. He was older - he should have known better not me. He will even say he doesnt' rememer asking me to marry him. He did it on the spur of the moment but hey, I remember it. I can't believe what a jerk he turned into and he told me when we started dating how his culture and relgion is so much better and how he is a good catholic who thinks marriage is for life and all that stuff.
I feel like an idiot for buying it. (and I'm sorry if I'm sounding a little worked up but he just called complaining that he has to ask me if we have enough money to buy this or that and that's what he gets for not thinking it through before marying me). I'm not going to lie. We shouldn't have gotten married and he was having second thoughts about it and he feels like It's my fault solely. well it's his too. He never thinks anything is his fault.