Yesterday during a homily my deacon used the lord's name in vain, twice. When I wanted to talk to father about it he told me to email the deacon directly, like he didn't want any part of it. I mean come on he blasphemed right in front of the tabernacle in front of 150+ people, including youth and children. I think that my deacon is a good man and hopefully will listen when I muster the courage to talk to or email him. I know in the American culture our Father's name is used in frivolous ways and the saying 'oh my ...' is almost interchangebly used with 'Wow'. But next time people tell you it isn't a big deal ask them how much they like it when their kids walk around their house all day saying their name for fun or crying out for help when they don't need it, just to get you in the room. How much more disrespectful is it to our Holy Lord?
I have a worry as well that my priest spends more time reading secular books about great people in history than he does about the lives of the saints. I have even had questions about the prayer cards that are free to take at our parish and when I asked him about them he told me that he didn't know anything about that topic either and walked away. He has yet to give me an answer.
I have also heard my priest say to use your oil change as a reminder to go to confession, once every 3 months or so. I can't go more than a week without it and I usually need it again by Mon. or Tues. after going on Sat. I couldn't imagine taking the Eucharist for another 2-3 months in a state of mortal sin and thinking that it is perfectly okay. Isn't it a sacrilege to take the Eucharist at all in a state of mortal sin much less repeated times. That's why we have closed communion, so you don't desecrate the body and blood by taking it unworthily. Different lay authors generally advise once a month if not more.
My wife went to a different mass yesterday and walked away from the homily thinking that that particular priest had come down with 'Pharisee Syndrome' despite the old testament reading about the warning to the priests from our Lord and Father. And the New Testament reading about how the pharisees thought they were so cool because they were pharisees.
Not to mention parishoners not bowing to the blood, blaspheming during the mass, or texting during the mass. I know that I need to pray for these people but I feel like it wont really matter because they don't seem to listen to God when he is right in front of them much less during their day-to-day lives.
I know that these great men of the cloth are busy running parish budgets, private schools, ministries, building committees, etc... but unfortunately when I think of the most Catholic people at different parishes only one priest comes near to the top of the lists. I love my priest and I trust him and his obedience to the Church and the Holy father, but it seems that he could be more catholic than he is or wants to be. These problems seem quite discouraging when looked at all at the same time. These things break my heart when I see the preisthood falling away from even the most devout life possible.
I am open to what ever you guys want to say. Am I am being to hard on them or am I justified in holding them to a higher standard because of their vocation?