…Our mother thinks she can supersede the decisions made by my sister…
I let my sister’s 2 kids (also my godchildren) ages 9 & 11 know on a Thursday or Friday (when I have time off work) and I have the okay from their mother, I would take them to Chuck E Cheese for pizza & games (and quality time with me, their aunt). It was Xmas break week off school, and I would prefer quality time with the kids that doesn’t involve their grandmother.
My sister gave her okay for the outing and would meet me at the place, give me the booster seat for my niece then I would take the kids to our parents home after the outing as she had to go to work that evening after a long day for her which included a funeral/related things for a grandmother of one of her long time best friends.
Ironically, at the time my sister meets me in the parking lot of the place, I get a call from our mother demanding that I bring the older child (my nephew) to her place as he does not deserve to partake in the treat as he wasn’t always doing all his homework & turning it on time etc, and that he must spend the time working on his science project due at end of January/early February. I could treat the younger child (my niece) however.
My sister had a backbone on the phone with our parents saying I have no issue at all but she was overruled & very mad at that point. I said I have the kids & will get them to our parents later, go take care of a few things then go to work.
I went into the place with the kids in tow. I ordered the food and we all sat down for a few minutes. I got a call, this time from my dad with the same demands. I know that when my mom stands by him & tells him what to say, he can be nasty. He is easy going & nice when not under her thumb. He will not stand up to her when its needed. I think he has tried in past, but gets shot down real fast by her.
I was trying not to lose my temper talking on my cell phone in a public place but it was a losing battle with them on the other end.
I got the attention of our server then asked her nicely if she could box our pizza to go, something has come up unexceptedably, and the nice server had no issue with that. She brought out the pizza in a box for us a few minutes later. I put the game tokens in my handbag and took our drinks in to-go cups.
I hustled the kids to my car, and made sure they were buckled in properly. I drove back to my parents’ home safely, told my niece once there to stay in your seat, and instructed my nephew to take the pizza inside after I unlocked the front door to my parents’ home. During the drive back, my nephew said he’s been doing better with his homework, and I let him I will check up on you and don’t make a liar outta me please. He understood.
I drove back to the place from my parents home. My niece & I played games. I let her keep the tickets I won, and pick whatever prize(s) she wants with them. I did say, it would be nice if you maybe got a small thing for your brother as he’s at his maternal grandparents’ place not allowed to have any fun outside the home for a few hours with his aunt & sister.
I was a kid once. Ages ago. I know I tried not to do my homework but the embarrassment of signed progress reports by my teachers in junior high for a few months nipped that in the bud real fast. I hope a bit of a lecture on the way back to their grandparents’ place I gave my nephew will sink in. I did not yell or raise my voice to him
as I am sure gets that plenty from my mother.
And to think I was going to have a good few hours with the kids during their Xmas Break ALONE…
Who should have the final say here?
Some people said I should have not honored my parents’ request to bring the older kid back. That was tempting to me.
Others say, my sister gave the okay for the outing as she is the parent ( and that what our parents wanted should have been ignored, and she trusted that the kids would obey me as the adult in charge from the time she handed them to me so she could go to work as she had an evening shift.