When my son’s girlfriend became pregnant 2-1/2yrs. ago, she attended RCIA classes, admittedly intermittently. She barely knew who God was at the time, and found our practices very foreign and strange. However, my grandson was baptized in the catholic faith, even though our parish priest refused to baptize his mother-saying she wasn’t “serious” enough, and wasn’t making an “informed decision” to be baptized or to enter into marriage. Of course, this basically prevented them from a Catholic marriage. She was only 19 years old at the time. As a result, she felt looked down upon by the pastor and the deacon, and has been pulling my son away from his faith ever since. At first I was allowed to take my grandson to Mass on Sundays, but about a year ago she started going to what I call, “feel good” churches, and would more and more tell me my grandson was going with her and could not go with me. My son has been going along to keep peace in his household. She has threatened to take his son away from him on more than one occasion. Now they have announced another pregnancy, as well as telling me my grandson will not be going to Mass at all. My son has told her his son cannot go to these other churches recently, so she believes she has the right to keep him from the Catholic Church as well. My son has resorted to reading scripture at home with her and his son, and says he thinks she will eventually “come around”. I do not believe that at all. I am able to take my grandson with me at almost any other time, but am afraid to teach him any prayers, etc. for fear of alienating his mother. They are still no tmarried. My heart is broken, and I am praying constantly for help and guidance for us all.
I thought baptism was for anyone to merely ask for, and I can’t help thinking if only the pastor had been less judgemental none of this would be happening to our family.