Okay ladies, here’s the situation. I’ve decided, after 8+ years of widowhood that I’m open to marriage. I’m financially secure, with a good career, and some investment property. I’m physically fit, not very outgoing, like a lot of time to myself, fast approaching 50. I want your opinions of the two different men who are currently options for me. The names have been changed to protect the innocent.
Man #1… Joe, is 4 years younger than me, extremely fit and physically attractive, even though he has long hair. He seems younger than his age, has never been married, no kids, , loves to hang out with his brothers, is an avid mountain biker, has a wild look about him. He is a on and off practising Catholic who always goes to confession before returning to the Church and will sit out of communion if necessary. I can tell he’s geniuinly spiritual. I suspect Joe might sometimes smoke pot. He has a happy go lucky attitude, but probably is ready to settle down. I really like talking to him. He is intelligent, ethical, and passionate.
Man #2… John is a previously married, one grown son, long time single, solid citizen. He owns a downtown pharmacy, is a pharmacist, I’ve heard he’s ‘rich’ as one person told me. He is involved in community organizations and is a good guy. He is nice looking, but struggles with his weight and I’ve never been physically attracted to him. He is an avid skier and is always hinting that we should go skiing together. He has a mountain chalet. He might be eligible for marriage in the Church because he was probably baptized Catholic and didn’t marry in the Church the first time. That’s a guess on my part. He is very courteous, a bit shy and has an endearing stutter. He is also probably a bit younger than me. He likes to eat at fancy restaurants, and someone once told me that he drinks too much. He has short red hair, a nice trimmed beard, and brown eyes. A very devout lady from my church was very approving when she heard he was interested in me.
What do you think? Joe or John? I still have 2 kids living at home who are 4th and 5th grade. They are really good kids and a primary concern for me.