[quote="Fr_P, post:5, topic:316171"]
I like the idea of the crying room being the place where adults who don't like children go.
I got rid of the crying room in my current parish as it was a cold unwelcoming place at the back of the Church. It seemed to encourage parents to go there to chat regardless of whether their children were distressed or not.
Instead I dedicated a side chapel which is enclosed and has a much better view of the sanctuary to families and children. The Chapel does have a side altar, a shrine to the Sacred Heart and candle stands. I have been asked to remove the candle stands to make it safer for unruly toddlers, but I have refused, reminding the parents that they need to take responsibility for their childrens behaviour and safety.
The advantage of the side chapel is that parents actually have to come into the church, whereas the old crying room was accessed via the entrance foyer.
This is a particularly sensitive issue as everyone has needs and sometimes they are incompatible. I however, consider the children to be more important than adults, so prioritise there needs wherever possible. I hate the idea of children being banned from Church, it reminds me of Mark 10:13-16 "Let the little children come to me, do not stop them!"
Great post Father - thank you. There needs to be a prioritization.
I fond the "bad sound system" to be a rather poor reason for the older folks to usurp the cry room.
I wonder how large this church is and whether there really needs to be a 'sound system in the main part of the Church....I mean how did pastors give homilies in the 19th century and before???
[quote="Julianna, post:6, topic:316171"]
In our parish the seniors go to Mass at the wee hours or the 11:00. Most of the family masses are at 9:30 or 5:30 on Sat. I learned "real quick" which Mass to attend with my then 2 yr old daughter.
Being as this is a rural church, there may not be that many mas options.