[quote="KindofScared, post:8, topic:257916"]
Thank you all for your feedback.
The tragic thing is, I have had problems finding jobs and keeping jobs even when the economy was great! I don't know what it is! Am I stupid? I feel stupid right now. I was raised to feel stupid. But I know I am not. My father always made our Jewish friends kids seem so brilliant. And one of them was. They could do no wrong! He called us (or me) stupid, but they were brilliant! I still feel I have to compare myself to them. I can't get it out of my head. Today one is a doctor and the other works in showbiz. And here I am, yet again unemployed and lost. I AM LOST AT 51!!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
There is no possibility any of us can know enough about you and your situation to really give you good answers. So all answers just have to be tentative. Might fit, might not.
I will say this, though I have no idea whether it pertains to your situation or not. I have noticed, since this recession has begun, that a lot of people on here say they're unemployed. I have been more than a little surprised at the length of some unemployments, and put to wonder just a little whether some of them are simply in the wrong part of the country. There are places in this country where unemployment is quite low. In some of them, perhaps your skills and experience might not be a good fit for the employment available. But likely some are. Sometimes it's difficult or even impossible for one to move, but people manage it somehow.
But I will also agree with what one poster said about remaining unemployed for long periods. Any employer will look more favorably at an application of a person who is working, almost no matter at what job, than he will at one from a person who has a long stretch of unemployment in his record.
Does that mean, truly, that an employer will hire somebody who, notwithstanding being overqualified, has spent the last couple of years on the line at a window factory or a foundry or a meat processing plant, or even driving a truck? Well, it happens. I have seen it enough times to believe it. Around here, anybody with two arms and a head can get jobs like those.
Would I do that if it came to it? Well, I'm older than you, and I would go on the line at ConAgra or someplace in a heartbeat if it's all there was. Would I go get a CDL and apply at J.B. Hunt for long haul or IBP/Tyson's for short haul? Most definitely. I would be a Walmart greeter if that's all there was. And to be frank with you, I would still be able to look at my classmates who "made good" straight in the eye. Nobody is "better than me" in a human sense, and I don't care what they did or didn't do in life. They'll all have heartbreaks and die, just like me. So why should I value their lives more than mine? One thing a person HAS to do is value what he's doing. Does anybody really think J.B. Hunt, for example, would pay me a nickel if they didn't NEED somebody to drive their trucks? No. They would pay me because they value a driver who will take his truck where and when it's supposed to be there, and THAT'S valuable to them. Therefore, I would be valuable to them. My paycheck would be the tribute they pay to my being valuable. People don't do that lightly.
Again, there may well be things about your situation I couldn't possibly guess at. I wish you the best.
Oh, yes. I don't know why you came into a Catholic forum and told us all, right at the first, that you used to be Catholic and aren't now. Did you think we would think you cursed for that? Did you think we would relate an answer to that? If that's in your mind; some guilt thing perhaps, then that's something you need to deal with in a proper manner; perhaps discussing it with your preacher or a priest. If, on the other hand, you somehow thought the best lead-in was to poke your finger in our eye, then perhaps it would be well for you to talk to a professional about seeking failure for some reason I could not possibly imagine.