This is what I’m trying to figure out. I end up conversing with Catholics who are upset, enraged and/or dissillusioned…and they end up looking for something else. Its unfortunate and I’m curious as to what it is that people are up against.
From an outside point of view, and from what I hear, I’m getting a few ideas as to what it is all about.
One idea I have is that these people are raised inside of the church’s teaching so they accept them without question. Nothing wrong with that unless they find out that there are other ways to worship, and that other people seem to be doing fine. For good or bad, there are non-catholics who do not live according to the ‘rules’ and are happy and living good lives.
Another idea is that a person’s core character is not in alignment with the teachings of the church. This is what I hear most and though I don’t know what all the teachings are, it sounds like its usually around sexual orientation, birth control and the church being the only true path. I think that these people aren’t all gay, for example, in order for them to have an issue with the church’s stand on homosexuality. Their friend may be gay, or their child may be gay.
I think both these situations cause people to question their religion, which apparently seems to be another bad idea according to the church - so now people are upset and not allowed to look outside of that which has upset them.
This is all just lame theory as I’m really new to all this. I’ve only been here for a few months so feel free to tear it to shreds. It certainly fits with who I end up talking to. They just can’t go back they say, which is sad because they obviously want to. So they keep talking about the church because they are actually still ‘in’ it. If they didn’t care about it, then they wouldn’t talk about it. Unfortunately the ‘talk’ sounds a lot like ranting. That’s why I send them back to their church - because its actually what they want.