[quote=pira114]I see nothing in Jesus’ teachings that say I should be so charitable that I become a victim.
I’d hate to be the one to bring up a painful point, but don’t we daily refuse Christ’s charity? Doesn’t He offer us eternal life and happiness and out of our pride and conceit we refuse His gifts?
Christ was the ultimate victim. He died for our sins… all of them… not just the annoyance of the odd person who doesn’t accept a helping hand. How can we say He doesn’t teach us to give until it hurts?
There’s being a victim and then there’s having one’s pride hurt. If we have our hands chopped off for giving a loaf of bread to a homeless person, then we are victims. If the homeless person refuses the bread and hurts our feelings, we’re not.
Even if the charity you speak of is the love of the virtue, we are no victims. Charity is supposed to be given freely. It doesn’t matter if it is not reciprocated, or if the person passes it on to others. What is important for us, is our giving. That’s what God is looking for.
"You have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thy enemy.
But I say to you, Love your enemies: do good to them that hate you: and pray for them that persecute you:
That you may be the children of your Father who is in heaven, who maketh his sun to rise upon the good, and bad, and raineth upon the just and the unjust.
For if you love them that love you, what reward shall you have? do not even the publicans do this?
And if you salute your brethren only, what do you more? do not also the heathens do this?
Be you therefore perfect, as also your heavenly Father is perfect. (Matt. 5:43-48)
Its something to think about. I know its incredibly difficult for me also. My pride is great. I try to keep in mind that Christ gave so much to us, a people who refuse His grace daily, that I have no right to hold back from giving charity to those who would refuse it.
I hope this helps.