unless it’s dire need, why do some catholics make it almost seem like a sin for mothers to work? is every woman really supposed to be called to spend all their days at home?
my mom was a sahm and I’m telling you, she hated it. and gues who gets the blame for it now? yeah, me
and it was way, way too much time I spent around her, I could never get a break, she is also the very authoritarian type of parent with constant discipline and difficulty actually showing love and affection. don’t gt me wrong, I know she loves me and wants what’s best, but she just doesn’t know how to say it
so if you want to be a sahm, make it your own decision, please don’t blame your child for it later. now, every time I want to discuss future plans with her, I get a response like “well, I had a future but I had to give it all up for you, so life isn’t about what you want to do, it’s about what you have to do”. not that I’m saying that any of you do this, it’s just my experience
also, why is cahotlic piety seemingly based on how many children one has. I’m tired of people telling me I’m spoiled because I’m basically an only child and only children are selfish because they don’t know how to share, etc…
why do people make you feel guilty if you feel like you can only handle one child or need something else besides child rearing to stimilute you? obviously, I don’t think people should be selfish, but working and having less children doesn’t equate to selfishness does it?