Have you ever noticed that many people want to be hated? It seems to be common thing, at least among women. People love spreading stories about how mean other people are, and one of their favorite topics is “oh, so and so hates me so much. One time he/she…” I highly doubt that they’re actually offended. I think that it just kind of fits in with the self-pity culture. When you listen to a story told from that viewpoint, it’s natural for the listener to respond with pity for the “victimized” storyteller. It also makes any retaliation by the “victim” sound justified.
This leads me into the “push back” mentality. This, also, is a common one. I’ll often meet people who teach their children, “no one is ever allowed to offend you, and if they do, you are fully justified to insult them, hate them, and spread the word that they are a terrible person, and I, your parent, will go to their parents and tell them all about it.” Don’t you see the problem here? Yet so many parents teach this to their children. Kindergarteners now are constantly “telling on each other” or complaining that what the other kid said “isn’t nice.” Of course it’s “not nice!” Now, telling a person that stealing is wrong will evolve the answer, “don’t judge me.” We do not have the right to judge the person, of course, but we can judge the action. Yet people no longer make that distinction.
All of this stems from pride. Pride is, to me, the most destructive of the seven cardinal sins. No one now can ever ever admit that they are wrong, and they teach their children to do the same. What will the next generation be like? Even catholic parents sometime have this mentality and unknowingly pass it on to their children, or else the children learn it from school, even Catholic school. And I must admit that these ideas are very easy to fall in with. It’s so easy to tell a story and to play up your own suffering so that you appear innocent and cruelly victimized. Swimming against the tide is so difficult, but, I encourage you, look around. Open your eyes, and you will see this everywhere. Is this how you want your children to be? Overly sensitive to the point of being intollerant, self-pitying, more obsessed with standing up for themselves that they forget their religious beliefs and religion becomes secondary to their opinions? This seems to be a growing problem.