"Why Gays May Be the Best Parents". - LiveScience


#1

Full article here:

livescience.com/17913-advantages-gay-parents.html

Gay marriage, and especially gay parenting, has been in the cross hairs in recent days.

On Jan. 6, Republican presidential hopeful Rick Santorum told a New Hampshire audience that children are better off with a father in prison than being raised in a home with lesbian parents and no father at all. And last Monday (Jan. 9), Pope Benedict called gay marriage a threat "to the future of humanity itself," citing the need for children to have heterosexual homes.

But research on families headed by gays and lesbians doesn't back up these dire assertions. In fact, in some ways, gay parents may bring talents to the table that straight parents don't.

Gay parents "tend to be more motivated, more committed than heterosexual parents on average, because they chose to be parents," said Abbie Goldberg, a psychologist at Clark University in Massachusetts who researches gay and lesbian parenting. Gays and lesbians rarely become parents by accident, compared with an almost 50 percent accidental pregnancy rate among heterosexuals, Goldberg said. "That translates to greater commitment on average and more involvement."

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And while research indicates that kids of gay parents show few differences in achievement, mental health, social functioning and other measures, these kids may have the advantage of open-mindedness, tolerance and role models for equitable relationships, according to some research. Not only that, but gays and lesbians are likely to provide homes for difficult-to-place children in the foster system, studies show. (Of course, this isn't to say that heterosexual parents can't bring these same qualities to the parenting table.) [5 Myths About Gay People Debunked]...

..."I was just thinking about this with a couple of friends and just was in tears thinking about how different my childhood might have been had same-sex marriage been legalized 25 years ago," a 23-year-old man raised by a lesbian couple told Goldberg. "The cultural, legal status of same-sex couples impacts the family narratives of same-sex families — how we see ourselves in relation to the larger culture, whether we see ourselves as accepted or outsiders."

I can't believe the propaganda that is being shoved down our throats everywhere we look. How long can Mary hold back the Hand of God before His anger is too great to be restrained?


#2

“advantage of open-mindedness” More like liberal brainwashing!

:mad: I’m starting to extremely dislike that word, open-minded. It implies something good, but these days just really means a lack of convictions.


#3

These people miss the point entirely, because they are blind to the point.

It's not a question of whether there are motivated people who are gay, who live in a monogamous relationship, and who (by whatever means) father (father?) a child and bring it up well. It's not about motivated gay people who somehow do the right thing, despite doing all the wrong things.

The danger to the family is the normalizing of "family" units that essentially deny life, and procreation, co-creation with God. It's the normalizing of unions that deny, and even mock, the biological and gender based family.

When the family dies, society dies. :mad:


#4

I commented about this elsewhere. People who usually cannot have children are usually more motivated than those who have children by accident. It's common human nature. Something that someone works hard at is appreciated more than something one gets easily or for free. Rich people (like most of us) usually throw food away, but a destitute person won't and people who've gone hungry before would probably also find it hard. They appreciate these good things.

Gay parents may therefore be more motivated than some ordinary parents. The ordinary parents may follow the current societal trend that children are a burden and should not be welcomed. It's really a problem or fault of the hedonistic, nihilistic, post modern approach to families. People have premarital sex, get pregnant - thankfully at least don't abort - and then there is an unwanted child. Of course in such a situation a child may feel like a burden but the situation was preventable by not having sex with people you're not married to. But much of culture advocates and even celebrates that. The media are usually most to blame.

At the same time 1000s of children are aborted (murdered). If decent and chaste and ideally Christian but not necessarily, gay people wanted to adopt these, it would be great, and if it could save lives, it would be welcome.


#5

Yes it’s not ideal. But if the gay parents recognise what they do is dodgy and raise their children free of anti-God indoctrination and such a child is saved from being aborted, it would be a far lesser evil. One can tolerate certain outliers without making them the new definition of normal (or even desirable).


#6

Gay parents chose to become parents? Wow. So no heterosexual guys and gals ever choose to become parents? They're just there for the sex and maybe some slip-up with their contraceptives got them to where they are now, huh?

Do these people even listen to themselves and think about what they are saying?


#7

The love is the motivation to be good parents. Gays don't love their children any more than man/woman couples. It has little to do with the choice to have a family at any particular time. Nice try proaganda pushers but no cigar. You may be selling this one sided(rather than open minded:p) point but I am not buying.


#8

Oh His Love and Compassion is greater than that of any creature.
The Blood of Jesus will quite sustain us as needed, where it is His Will.


#9

[quote="Tenofovir, post:4, topic:270833"]
I commented about this elsewhere. **People who usually cannot have children are usually more motivated than those who have children by accident. **It's common human nature. Something that someone works hard at is appreciated more than something one gets easily or for free. Rich people (like most of us) usually throw food away, but a destitute person won't and people who've gone hungry before would probably also find it hard. They appreciate these good things.

Gay parents may therefore be more motivated than some ordinary parents. The ordinary parents may follow the current societal trend that children are a burden and should not be welcomed. It's really a problem or fault of the hedonistic, nihilistic, post modern approach to families. People have premarital sex, get pregnant - thankfully at least don't abort - and then there is an unwanted child. Of course in such a situation a child may feel like a burden but the situation was preventable by not having sex with people you're not married to. But much of culture advocates and even celebrates that. The media are usually most to blame.

At the same time 1000s of children are aborted (murdered). If decent and chaste and ideally Christian but not necessarily, gay people wanted to adopt these, it would be great, and if it could save lives, it would be welcome.

[/quote]

So heterosexuals have children "by accident?" I'm pretty insulted by this statement.

:mad:


#10

False comparison. They would have found the same "results" having studied heterosexual couples who struggled with infertility for a long period of time before having children, whether through adoption, fertility treatments, IVF, whatever.


#11

[quote="ConstantineTG, post:6, topic:270833"]
Gay parents chose to become parents? Wow. So no heterosexual guys and gals ever choose to become parents? They're just there for the sex and maybe some slip-up with their contraceptives got them to where they are now, huh?

Do these people even listen to themselves and think about what they are saying?

[/quote]

I was thinking the same thing. Way to bolster gay couples and tear down heterosexual couples at the same time. I thought my wife and I had chosen to have our kids all along, Guess I was mistaken.


#12

Come now, people. You can't argue with "science", can you?:D


#13

This article is flawed. Too many heterosexual couples use contraception so many are actually resilient to the ideas of children.


#14

So why are gay people many times more likely to be pedophiles than heterosexual people?


#15

I don't usually swear in public and don't mean to offend but what a piece of retarded rubbish. A huffington post article even admitted that the research was done by homosexuals themselves. Here's a video by Michael Voris whom I consider to be very intelligent: youtube.com/watch?v=0UJ1ekB--Fo&feature=related

Hey people, heterosexuals are more likely to abuse children when we know that its not heterosexuality's fault but the sick minds of a few perverts! I hear they're calling CPS on you! Hide yo kids, hide yo wives and hide yo husbands cause they're kidnapping everybody out there. Seriosuly, I can't believe humanity has sunk so low that it is uttering all this idiocracy... or actually its not humanity, its just a bunch of twats insulting the zillions of heretosexual people who built society by marriage. But no, here comes homosexuality, abortion, divorce and disragard of religion to divide us. I bet the twats who wrote that article had the same intention that Philip Pullman had when he wrote his obnoxious book The Good Man Jesus: they know they're lying yet keep on writing just to give us the middle finger. This deserves a special kind of facepalm, one so huge yet silly in order to fit with the articles quality:

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_REkgXByDyuU/S6oedAOQteI/AAAAAAAAGlI/KwD2f-zC9eU/s400/impliedfacepalm-ba.jpg

Yes, thats good. But what about:

http://m18.photobucket.com/albums/b139/KDM-db/Jesus-Facepalm.jpg

Ah! Thats better!


#16

[quote="TheRealJuliane, post:9, topic:270833"]
So heterosexuals have children "by accident?" I'm pretty insulted by this statement.

:mad:

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Tell me about it. If the authors of that poor excuse of an article ever came to me and told me all those thigns, I'd show them books on evolution, psychology and psychiatry and tell them that that is science; they're rubbish. You're not scientists, you're propagandists who just threw their hands up in the air and said 'Screw this, we don't care if we offend 55 billion people, we're just spewing this out so as to please those lazy idiots called homosexuals.' If I could, I'd reduce them to tears showing them what a load of idiotic twits they truly are.


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