I am expecting to have a baby soon and have been reading my usual nice books to get my head filled with good thoughts. The book also contains some helpful hints on dealing with certain situations. This is my first time that I am not completely happy with or do not even know many of the doctors on the team. So I have tried to explain to my husband a few manouvers that may come on handy to save me from a c-section (never had one) in case the attending doctor decides they want to do one. If the baby seems stuck in the birth canal with the head out or still in, flipping the woman onto her hands and knees will open her up further and also if the head is out then one can reach in and grab hold under the armpits of the baby and ease him out. This is a common sense thing that doctors may not think of. I explained this to my husband and asked if he could do that even if the doctors insisted on a c-section. He could insist on giving it a shot even if the doctors didn’t want to try because of their policy. He would have time to do it because the anesthesiologist needs to get into the room before a section. But my husband insists that I should be able to explain all this to the doctor and that the doctor should be able to comply…
I don’t get it.
Does he not want to help? Does he really think that a doctor determined to do one thing can be asked to try something else? Why waste time? He can do it. For crying out loud I’d do it for someone else. My problem is all I’ve got is him.
Why is this so hard? Why can’t he talk to me about this. WHy does he keep saying that I should be able to explain this to the doctor at the time? From previous experience I know that when the time is at hand for pushing then I have the least amount of power to explain things and have only never had a problematic thing to deal with. SO nothing ever went wrong.