Oh man do I know this subject… Five months ago the person who I thought for sure would be the one for me decided to end our relationship. We had talked seriously about marriage. I’m at the point where the person I have a relationship with has to be someone whom I can see marrying. I had always said that I wanted to wait until after I was finished law school to get married, but the truth is I would have been willing to not wait, because I knew God would provide for both of us. Between the age difference (we were 20 and 18, he was a college freshman…turns out 2 years was a bigger difference than either of us thought), his pledging for a fraternity, and different issues that had affected our lives, our relationship just didn’t make it. In some ways, it’s a good thing. We’re both at completely different stages in life right now. I’ve prayed everyday for him, and for us, because despite the fact that our relationship didn’t work out, I do think we were very good together, and I want us to both be happy and find the person we’re meant to find.
I think it took weeks to be able to look at what we had, and look at our breakup without crying. I had a lot of anger and bitterness towards him, his fraternity, and even myself. I thought that if somehow things had been different, maybe we wouldn’t have been driven apart. I couldn’t understand how somebody who I loved (and still do love) so much, and who said they felt the same about me, could just end our relationship. One of the greatest lessons I learned from that though, is that you have to be able to forgive. Forgive the person for hurting you, and forgive yourself for anything you did wrong. It’s a hard thing to do, especially when everyone else around you says that you just have to “get over it,” but I’ve found that through prayer and sacrifice, somehow we can find the strength to forgive, move on, and learn to hope with joy for the plans God has for us. I believe no prayer is said in vain, and I believe that God hears them all, and I definitely believe that if we persevere in prayer, we will find exactly what we need. Keep praying for her and for yourself. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers as well.