Why is masturbating a wrong thing to do?

I am a teenage female and I get the urge to do it atleast once a week I ask God for forgiveness because I have been taught it to be wrong by my christian friends etc. But when I really think about it, how is it wrong to massage my own body I am not thinking any dirty thoughts or anything I am just simply touching myself as I would massage my temples or something in order to feel pleasure. Also babies masturbate even when they are in the womb so are they sinning? and I heard that men need to release semen from their body so it HAS to be done and if they don’t they have wet dreams and end up mastubating anyways…so if its something natural that the body can do and if you are not thinking lustful when doing it I want to know how it is a sin please!

Short answer: Because its a use of the sexual organs for pleasure instead of procreation.

I’m not a Theologian but I suspect that nocturnal emission “wet dreams” as well as babies touching themselves is a result of original sin.

Reproductive organs are for reproduction. Look at Genesis 38:9. When we use them solely for pleasure or take measures to prevent life we abuse ourselves, each other and our relationship with God.

DENY YOURSELF. Pick up your cross, and follow after Christ.

Pray for purity and fidelity to God.

Did not Paul write that it is better to marry than to burn with passion? But in the modern world it is not acceptable according to the laws of the land to marry at an age when procreative passions begin. Is “Deny yourself,” really the best advice Mother Church can offer this child? Especially when the act is done without lust?

I am a father to a little girl, not yet 2 years old. I cannot help but to imagine being asked this question by my own child in years to come. To the original poster, we all have choices to make, we are none of us perfect, we will sometimes make choices we regret. If you are not at risk of bringing children into this world without adequate support for them (pre-marital sex) and are also mostly without lust I think you are doing reasonably well given the imperfect state we are starting from.

We are to strive for perfection, we are not expected nor required to achieve it. I think that you are in a good place morally - that to try to do better might well end up in harm. I would also consider that others who tell you otherwise might have planks of their own to see to rather than your speck.

Best of luck to you and I hope that life treats you well, no matter the path you lead.

I think checking out these answers will help you out:

chastity.com/chastity-qa/pornography-etc/pornography-etc

Hope this helps and God Bless

You seem to have developed a strange moral standard that objects to premarital sex and lust / sinful thoughts… but permits sin when it’s really really tempting? Utilitarian in one sense, and otherwise selectively embracing of Christian sexual ethics.

We do all have choices to make and we are not perfect… that is not a reason to compromise and allow some mortal sin but not others.

We are to strive for perfection. If you single out a mortal sin as being acceptable to transgress, you would no longer be striving for perfection. The fact that we fall short is fine, provided that we go to confession and ask God for help and forgiveness.

A convenient caveat. I can tell you that I masturbated very frequently for several years and it almost certainly destroyed my sexuality. I am not really sexually attracted to people anymore. There seem to be a lot of cultural forces bent on convincing the youth that it has no negative effects and I staunchly disagree.

As for the plank in my eye - I still struggle with it daily, and I still fail on occasion. But it is my opinion that the advice you are giving is gravely inconsistent with the teachings of Jesus and the Catholic Church, regardless of my own sinfulness.

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Thank you for being respectful while countering my statement. I also need to apologise for posting as an emotional reaction.

My own experience with a similar struggle led to increased anxiety that added to some suicidal ideation when I was in college. I decided to focus on fighting the self destructive thoughts and live with the lust. Hopefully the OP does not have this other concern and will easily bear any additional stress her decision may bring.

Please do not think I was trying to be an authority - I have been religiously and spiritually inactive for some time until recently. Also, as I said, I was reacting to a post that itself was not directly addressing the original question. As such I am guilty of trying to turn two wrongs into a right.

I don’t mean to be rude but so much of what you said is total BS. First of all, no, babies do not masturbate in the womb. Where the heck did you hear this? Babies in the womb don’t even have developed sexual organs and aren’t even coordinated enough to grasp down there. Secondly men do not have to masturbate. Semen is produced by the body when it seems the “need” arises and if the man does not masturbate then it is simply either released during sleep or reabsorbed. A man isn’t going to explode if he doesn’t masturbate.

Secondly, to answer why it’s wrong I will give you two answers: a moral theological one as well as an explanation as to why it’s bad for you. First of all, it simulates the act of sexual intercourse. From a Christian perspective, sexual intercourse is something that is meant to be shared between two people, to bring them together and to create life. This is the dual purpose of sex. Masturbation separates sex from both of these purposes and focuses the individual inward to himself/herself. This leads into why it is bad for you. First of all the body during sex releases something called Oxycontin, which is a bonding hormone that causes two people to feel close to one another. This is the same hormone that is released when a mother first hold her baby after it is born; it sort of “seals” them together and is the driving force behind the maternal instinct. Between spouses it unites the husband and wife very deeply to one another. If Oxycontin is released during the isolated act of masturbation, then it’s bad news. It gives a tendency to withdraw: to look to yourself and focus on yourself instead of reaching out to others. There are studies that show that people who masturbate a lot have a harder time connecting with people and developing meaningful relationships. Personally I don’t need studies to tell me this, I know from experience. Deciding to quit made such a difference in my life. There is another really bad effect that masturbation has. When you masturbate, another neurochemical is released in massive amounts: dopamine. It is the chemical that triggers the reward part of the brain. Other activities that cause very large amounts of dopamine to be released are using illegal drugs or drinking too much alcohol too often. Yes, this is what causes addictions. So when you become stressed, anxious, depressed, or whatever, masturbation becomes your default outlet and you become dependent on this behavior. Do you really want this for yourself?

Stop masturbating while you can, you will be glad you did in the future.

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:thumbsup:Great answer!!!

I am sorry that you were in such a bad place… I pray that you will have healing or at least gain some closure. Yes, lust is a struggle, and we look to the Holy Cross for strength to carry our own little crosses.

It is also my hope that the OP does not struggle with the same thing. Chastity is something that we don’t treasure in our day and age, and it is so precious. But I think that it is such a great consolation to us that we can at least move forward instead of living with our burdens for the rest of our lives.

As far as I know, masturbation was called “sex with the devil”…

Perhaps the word you a looking for is oxytocin? OxyContin is a prescription pain killer.

From the Catechism of the Catholic Church2352 By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. "Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action."138 “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose.” For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of "the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved."139

To form an equitable judgment about the subjects’ moral responsibility and to guide pastoral action, one must take into account the affective immaturity, force of acquired habit, conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen, if not even reduce to a minimum, moral culpability.

My own experience with addiction to masturbation for more than 30 years has resulted in great difficulties in my present relationships. I overcame the problem with the help of a good confessor. Quit now, please, is my best advice.

I absolutely agree with you about the marriage part of that, it’s really mega-weird the way faithful Catholics in the West are going about this with that whole “get a doctorate and buy a house before you get married” (what, by 30 at the earliest?) or worse the “get an advanced degree and buy a house before you start dating” (32-33 or never-ish?).

What is the downside to marrying before you are independently wealthy again?

Note: I’m not a Catholic - so keep in mind this is an ‘outside view’. I see nothing wrong with it - and scientific studies show that sexual release has physiologic and neurologic benefits. As far as what is said in the Old Testament, it would seem to apply only to men, as their orgasm is involved in procreation, while a woman’s is not. Teenage boys being told their nocturnal emissions are sinful can’t be psychologically healthy. It would feel like being betrayed by your own body, during a time of maturity that is difficult enough without adding guilt and shame over something that is completely beyond their control.

Looking back across different societies, religions and cultures - there is a correlation between strict sexual taboos and incidents of sex-based crimes, particularly rape. The more shameful the act, the more tempting it becomes - simply because it is taboo. That being said, the other extreme - like the exultation of sex seen during the Roman Empire (the recent discoveries of sexual practices in Pompeii and Herculaneum is particularly interesting) doesn’t appear to be healthy, either - as evidenced by STDs. Sex is a normal aspect of being human. It makes more sense to me to teach unbiased facts and the consequences of sexual acts without the damnation or exultation of either.

I’m sure that’s right. But who on earth teaches that anyway?? Certainly no Catholic teaching suggests that.

Catholicism has never taught that nocturnal emissions are sinful.

I wouldn’t really doubt this. From a physiological point of view one would expect that it would have benefits similar to sex, which the body has evolved to reinforce, ie. when you are stimulated various neurotransmitters are released causing a sensation of pleasure. That does not make it harmless. In any cases when “pleasure” is involved, addiction is possible because the brain gets used to certain quantities of neurotransmitters. When you masturbate frequently, all of that is happening in isolation from another person. Your body gets used to the feeling of pleasure without needing another person. In my experience, that prevented me from having normal sexual interests - my body does not respond to them anymore, because it’s used to getting that stimulation elsewhere.

Because it is using our reproductive organs for something other than what they were designed for. Our reproductive organs were designed for procreation not for pleasuring ourselves.

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