First please do not misinterpret the question of this subject to be confrontational or disrespectful of the KofC or of the church. I have a deep love for the church and try to explore it everyday thourgh reading, radio and this site. However, I have always had a wanting to more involve with my church life, and cannot really find it today.
I am (what is called here on this site as) a “crib Catholic”. I was an alter boy, have been involved with church service hours, and have join different opportunities to protest abortion in the past. I am a Catholic for life and believe in it whole heartily. I take oaths in my life very seriously. Either being my confirmation to the Catholic religion, the oath I took joining the service or the one I took 22 years ago to marry my wife. I love all three God/religion, my wife and my country.
In my last two churches (Missouri and Texas) there has been very little community to be found out side of the KofC. The lack of personal involvement at these churches with their fellowman has really disturbed me as of late. The same people at church that say “peace be with you” will cut each other off to get out of the church parking lot faster, and will avoid contact with each other outside of church. I guess while growing up, I am use to being involved with developing churches that are just building and holding mass in high school gyms. The priest knew the name of everyone that has or has not attended mass. I remember great priest like Father Leibrecht who came out of retirement just to marry me in my old parish in St. Charles Missouri while I was stationed in Panama.
I guess I find the issue more with large mega churches. I find myself looking for opportunities for bible groups or other occasions to gather with fellow Catholics to learn the word of the lord.
Regarding the KofC, I have contacted my local chapter connected with my church several times, but can't get a response or even an opportunity to fill out an application. I have even reached out to through the national website with no prevail. The problem I guess I have is that I moved every 3-4 years of my life. My father served 23 years the Navy and as he retired I joined to serve 7 years in the Air Force. It seems just when I finally find a sponsor, I had to move again. Even four years ago, I again moved to Texas to follow a job in the civilian world.
Good friends of mine had a totally different experience with a local non-Catholic church in the area. When they arrived 2 years ago, their youngest daughter had to have unexpected heart surgery. People from his church (stranger really) came and watched his other daughter, and then took watch over the sick child for him and his wife to allow them to go eat. They joined the church only a month before. Recently the same friend had a heart attack and the church came running to help. They seem to have a real conection with their church, and are invloved several times weekly.
I finding myself wanting for the same devotion of community within my own church. Conversations with my friends and family that are practicing Catholics have spoken that they have experienced the same. I even know a few others that have left or are looking leave the church, that state this issue is one of the big reasons. I am wondering if there are many of you that feel the same way. I would like to ask what are your experiences and solutions to this percieved problem?
Thank you and God bless. I hope you enjoy the birthday of the church this weekend.