This may be long and drawn out but I want you to fully understand me.
I was married in 1984 and divorced in 1986 to a non-catholic we had 1 child together.
I remarried in 1995 to a catholic man that had been divorced also and had custody of their child. We did not marry in a catholic church we both were working very long hours and could not find any free time to go to classes.
In 1986 we had a child together and he was baptized.
In Oct of 2003 I was told by my Grandmother that I had never been baptized must to my shock I called my Mom and was told that was the truth. I was raised catholic and had attend mass most of my life.
I went straight to our parish and explained my findings.
We started the paper work with the Archdiocese to begin the annulments of both of our marriages. My husbands was finished in 2 months.
But mine they say must be sent to Rome!
We were was asked by my sister in-law and brother in-law to be the godparents to their child ! I was told by our parish that neither one of us could be the child’s godparents 1 because I was never baptized and 2 because my husband was married to me a non- catholic !
I received some paper work in the mail this weekend from the Archdiocese asking Father XYZ to complete a priest instructing form, a letter of recommendation regarding my religious practice and freedom to marry of a intended catholic party, a promise to be signed by both myself and my husband, a copy of my first marriage cert., a copy of my marriage cert. to my now husband, a copy of our son’s baptismal cert. , and the first 100$ of a total of 400$ to be sent.
Why does my first marriage have to be sent to Rome?
Since in the church’s eyes my first marriage is not recognized ?
And since I was never baptized why do they have to send it to Rome?
Why would we not be able to be God parents?
I thought that being a God parent to to lead the child into life and so him his faith?
I don not have and extra 400$ laying around Plus Father XYZ from the Archdiocese told me that Rome may not even annul my first marriage!
Why does the catholic church make it so difficult for a person to be baptized?
All of this just makes me sick to my stomach. I have almost reached to point of saying just forget it God knows how I feel and knows that I belive.
I am to the point to where I am angry and I never wanted to be angry with my faith. I am so mad that if I went to go speak with Father XYZ I would regret it.
Please help me understand why the Archdiocese makes this so difficult on non-catholics?
I would have thought since I was not baptized that my annulment would have been the easy one!?
Thanks in advance for your help!!!